Roashan Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I was dating a girl for 7 months and before that I was her good friend for 2 years. She was like PERFECT for me. It started off really well but I loved and cared for her too much. I could not bear even if there was a tiny scratch on her. During the last two months, she found that too much of love as annoying.There were some friends of her who were just using her and I told her about that, but she was like "its none of your business". She started to find me annoying even though I loved her like so much. I did so much for her. But finally she broke up. My friends are not that supportive either. I still cant hate her even if I want to. I even cut my hand 20 times to overcome this pain. Now, I just cant bear the thought of her going out with her friends(guys) or her not talking to me.Its just been two weeks since the break up. I'm totally heartbroken. Not in a mood to eat or sleep or study.She was so beautiful I just cant forget her face. Guys,I deperately need help,Please. I'm feeling left out and I want to move on somehow. The situation seems Impossible for me I just want to get over her,soon. And I just cant bear the though of her even dating someone else. I just want to get rid of all this thought. I want to control my emotions but its too much to bear. Thats my story. From, Roshan.
Cassandra92 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Please do not let it get so bad that you hurt yourself, it is simply not worth it and does not achieve anything. Obviously it did not 'help' with the emotional pain. I would suggest doing positive things for yourself, like going to see a counsellor to talk about the feelings you are experiencing. Write your thoughts down or talk to somebody you trust in your family. Somebody who makes you feel that low is not the person for you.
Author Roashan Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 Thank you. But it seems so unfair that for all the things I've done for her, been with her when she needed me and all. Now she just ignores me, does not care about me, hangs out with her friends, that mocks me a lot and hurts me so badly. I mean to see her have so much of joy with her friends who have done nothing to her but I did everything for her, she just leaves me away. Just want to get over that, somehow. And thanks again !
depplover_1980 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Roashan, come over here and sit with me. May I enquire as to your age please and whether this is your first love? Do you have to see her around? When you have answered those questions I will advise further. For now I will talk about your self harming and actually I am curious to know whether this is something you have just started, or have done for some time? I too used to deal with emotional pain through cutting my arms and occasionally thighs and I strongly identify with the feeling of it just draining out with the cut. However it is a really bad cycle to become trapped within and it is more harmful than the obvious cuts and consequential scars. It is a lack of respect for your body and it also stops you dealing with your emotions successfully, which is something you will need to do in the long run as you are obviously a big 'feeler'. Do not harm yourself within the next day and then treat every day the same. I'll chat later with you.
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