welikeincrowds Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Good movie and acting by both Denzel and Crowe! Alpha head butts and mutual acknowledgement of such. You probably don't want to head butt with me, you'll just hurt yourself. I have a big head. You've read my posts, right? Besides, I never liked Russel Crowe.
threebyfate Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 You probably don't want to head butt with me, you'll just hurt yourself. I have a big head. You've read my posts, right? Besides, I never liked Russel Crowe. You've also read my posts. I'd say the pain would be greater on your side. I like both Crowe and Denzel. They're both "men". *ducks and run*
Author Kamille Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 The first thing I do when I notice a cute guy (no matter what situation) I look at him, try to make eye contact. This usually leads to some kind introduction. If he smiles back, I might smile a little more, maybe wink if I'm feeling extra flirty. It all depends on how he responds to my attention to him. I bolded this part because, yes, even smiling at a guy can take encouragement! I've been thinking that for most of my single life, I didn't even have the guts to smile at a guy. I would just think : "oh! he's cute" and would check him out on the sly. Of course, this was a very unproductive technique. Friends coached me in more productive ways to go about letting a guy know I was approachable. Perhaps this thread could also be of help to the ladies who are, like I was, afraid to let a guy know they were interested in him. Try it. A smile is painless and usually a very good technique.
Butterflying Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 The funny thing is, the more confident I am, I realize a lot of guys are shy. It's like the poster who described how amazed a guy was that she smiled at him. Sometimes, guys don't know what they want. They say they want women to be more "active" about approaching them. When it happens, the guy clams ups and doesn't know how to respond or what to do. Some guys will run away because the thought of being "pursued" by a woman is frightening to them. This is why I think eye contact and a smile are the first signs of attraction. People can smile (just to be friendly) but they rarely include eye contact if they aren't interested. After that, one person has to be confident enough to introduce themselves. And the other person has to be willing to accept.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 This is why I think eye contact and a smile are the first signs of attraction. People can smile (just to be friendly) but they rarely include eye contact if they aren't interested. That's the exact opposite of what my experience has been. Plenty of women who smile and act flirty demure when approached. After that, one person has to be confident enough to introduce themselves. And the other person has to be willing to accept. I would be able to agree with kamile if it was as likely that the woman would be that first mover. At least in that case I would have the relief of knowing that the other person was interested and available...leaving only weather or not she was interesting to me.
Cracker Jack Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 (edited) I remember when I was out one time, and this beautiful woman turned around and was smiling in my direction for quite awhile. I honestly thought she found me attractive, and as I moved towards her more, she actually started to walk towards me. I was all excited about finally having a woman be attracted to me, and was ready to talk to her.......only to see some guy that was behind me walk right ahead of me and start talking to her about noticing her and liking what he saw. That seriously made me:laugh: but it also made me feel down because that's just how it seems to be for me sometimes. In general, I think I'm one of those guys who can't read signs from women. I've been smiled at quite a few times, stared down a good amount, and winked at. Usually when I was stared down, there was no smile, but there was no eww type of look, either. It was just...a gaze, but I couldn't tell what it meant. Sometimes I can't tell if these women are just looking at me because they think I look familiar, nice, ugly, weird, or if I have something on my face. I truly do not know anymore. I'm trying to read and analyze this thread in order to gain something from it, but being around women and reading the forums are vastly different. I hate being so inexperienced with women. Edited March 12, 2011 by Cracker Jack
carhill Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 (edited) Seriously, that's only happened to you *once*? Lucky guy Your story reminds me of part of a film I enjoyed once. It really spoke to me. Edited March 13, 2011 by carhill
johan Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 I would be able to agree with kamile if it was as likely that the woman would be that first mover. At least in that case I would have the relief of knowing that the other person was interested and available...leaving only weather or not she was interesting to me. Are you scared to talk to a woman who isn't interested in you? The most interesting women tend to be the ones who aren't sending out any positive signals at all. It's really satisfying to find a woman opening up when you thought she'd never give you the time of day. This thread is interesting, but it won't make any guy better at figuring out what the smile of a total stranger means. The best strategy is to assume every woman, regardless of whether she's looking at you or smiling at you or completely ignoring you, is interested. Go on that assumption until you find out otherwise.
Cracker Jack Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Seriously, that's only happened to you *once*? Lucky guy Your story reminds me of part of a film I enjoyed once. It really spoke to me. That's happened to you before, Carhill? If so, I don't feel so bad now. I just always assumed it only happened to me for some reason, because it just seemed so odd. Based on the atmosphere, it was pretty easy to make a mistake like that, but it still sucked:laugh: Now I'm interested in checking out that link....
somedude81 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Sorry ladies, a smile isn't a good enough of a signal. When I'm walking by girls on campus it's not uncommon for a girl to smile to me if I walk by her. It's more of a, "I recognize you as a human" thing than an indicator of interest. Another example is my social dance class. Every single girl smiles at me when I rotate to them. Does it mean that they are all interested in me? Of course not. There needs to be another indicator that girls can do that they do to communicate to guys that she might be interested. How about, if a girl thinks a guy is cute and wants him to talk to her she lifts up her shirt and shows off her navel --------- BTW, how would a girl show interest when she's in a classroom or work situation?
carhill Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 Now I'm interested in checking out that link.... Yes, John C. Riley is sneaky brilliant in his portrayal of ostensibly forgettable people, the kind ladies walk right by to show interest in the Richard Geres of the world. IRL, though, contrary to 'celebrity', he's been married only once and to the same lady for nearly nineteen years. For myself, my 'first time' of feeling like 'cellophane man' happened in high school, with a young lady I had quite the crush on. Most recent was about a year ago while traveling. It's a curse of living 'outside' of one's self and tending to focus on others. Mistakes sometimes happen. Signals, or at least their direction, are misinterpreted.
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