Disillusioned Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Don't get me wrong, I'm happier with my Realdoll than I'd be with a woman I wouldn't really like. But now that I look back over the last 25 years, I figured out one of the Unwritten Rules the hard way: you have to date the lemons and not just the gems. I guess it all boils down to what turns me on vs. what society expects to turn me on. I've been to more bars, clubs, parties, events, you name it, than I can count, but therein lies the problem... I totally ignored the women who were considered "hot", and when I'd look around the room and see none that struck my fancy, I'd take the hint and leave. FYI I find very few hot women "hot"... I have my own ideas about feminine beauty. Getting laid has never been my mission (I know better than to ask, "so what comes after that?" because it's a pretty stupid question, and the answer is: nothing)... when I see a "hottie"---or as I call them, roasters---I don't think "wow, good material to screw and then chuck her like an empty beer can". Nooooooo. I think, "would I want to spend the rest of my life with this woman? And how would that work out for her?" Forget the flirt signals; this is the long haul. If I decide she's probably not the kind of woman I'd want to share my life with, I totally lose interest, even if her flirting starts getting so obvious even I can't misread it. But there's the problem. I should have done my best to act a little stoopid and make small talk with her, even take a sip of some disgusting alchoholic beverage if she wanted me to... worry about the interview later. But hey, I had nobody to teach me this stuff when I was a teenager. I was too busy being a bully magnet. I had no leather-clad delinquent teen buddy to tell me "dude, this is how you're supposed to do it, man". So now hopefully the rest of you can get an idea of why I turned out so critical of women (and why I have so many hobbies). Walk a mile in my 16EEE's before you judge me.
Leeway Harris Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Realizing all that, maybe this is your opportunity to turn it all around. It's not too late. Maybe next time you're at one of these parties, you can be more open to small conversation with women, and not worry about the rest of your life in that moment. And try not to get annoyed if she says a lot of things you consider inane and stupid. It's just a few minutes out of your life and it doesn't cost you anything, and she may end up surprising you after all.
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