kit89 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Kinda a long story I'll try to keep short. For all of last year I dated this guy, he was abusive, a liar and he ended up cheating on me. Now I cheated on him too. it wasn't a great relationship at all but we did get on well when we weren't fighting so that kept it going for a bit. Basically he cheated on me once, but flirted with many girls while we dated. I never trusted him which is what lead me to cheat. Crappy excuse but I was very immature at the time and hurting bad. I cheated on him with my best friend. We saw eachother a lot behind his back, it kinda felt like I had two boyfriends. I know, horrible, but my bf was a dick. I just didn't have the guts to end it. Now I went to NZ with my family for a month over new years. That's where things fell apart. This is when I found out my bf had cheated on me a few months before, and when I told him that I cheated on him. He still wanted to be with me and work on things but I just didn't feel right about it. Throughout our entire relationship I told my friend that I'd been seeing that when me and my bf break up we can date. So I messaged him and asked if he'd like to start dating when I got back to Aus. he said yes and was really excited. He loved me a lot, I always knew that. He was also a little obsessed, probably because I took his virginity. Now when I got back, I saw my bf (well ex now). I saw him for a few weeks and didn't see my best friend at all. When I finally broke it off with my bf for good I asked to see my friend, but he refused. He didn't speak to me for days. I messaged him nonstop and finally he agreed to seeing me. We worked on things and he told me he liked another girl, but he wanted to be with me over her. I didn't like it but agreed to date him anyway. A day after we dated she messaged me on facebook and told me they'd been seeing eachother. I asked him about it and he said all they did was kiss. I told him to leave since he'd lied even about that. Later that day he told me they had sex. Now this is where I'm torn. I really wanna be with him but he lied to me, from the day we started dating he lied. Is this a sign to not be with him? He told me he only did it because he was trying to move on and was sick of all the crap between me and my ex, but I just don't know if I can trust him. Now I've turned into the biggest bitch ever, I've been sleeping with my ex while seeing my friend. I tell him every time we do, and every time he cries. I ended up having a one night stand with someone else, and just hooking up with lots of people in general. Now I'm not a slut, I've slept with four guys my entire life, pretty low for a 21 year old. But I just feel so betrayed, I thought I could trust him and he lied to me. I really wanna be with him, but I'm not sure it's right. Or maybe I'm the one that should be suffering right now.
PegNosePete Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 Just end this horrible train wreck of a relationship. Find someone who will treat you right, and to whom you can be faithful.
Author kit89 Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 Well the relationship with my ex (the one who cheated on me and abused me) is mostly over. I just see him occasionally, but we always end up sleeping together. As for my best friend, I only dated him a day then found out he lied to me about what he'd done with this other girl. I'm not dating either atm but still "seeing" both.
Author kit89 Posted March 16, 2011 Author Posted March 16, 2011 Not really that possible, I'm a student and I don't have much money. Not only that I can't do things on my own, and my friends are all guys...and all except one or two have a thing for me or have had in the past. I really do need separation though, you're right. I haven't had a night alone (aside from when I went to NZ) in over a year. Not a single night :/
PegNosePete Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 Well if you're not happy with the choices you make, you need to make different choices.
spice4life Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 This would be hard situation to recover from. If I were the one who cheated and then found out the person did the same for revenge, it would be hard to rebuild. What if you thought he was cheating and he wasn't and you went out and cheated again? That's what I would be worried about. You should take some to time to regroup yourself and figure out what you want.
Yelle Posted March 17, 2011 Posted March 17, 2011 This does not sound like a healthy relationship. I think you need some time for yourself and get away from this mess.
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