JohnM Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Two months into being away from my girlfriend. Just wondering if anyone else seemed to fall into a similar thing sexually. We both have quite high drives. When together we would always have sex, generally turned out to be about six times a week I guess. We started sexy stories after about two weeks which we both now enjoy and we trade sexy photos pretty much every day. I seem to have the urge to masturbate nearly every day atm. We make a sexy call maybe once a week too. I don't know if it just helps to fulfill each others needs but we both enjoy it a lot, though sometimes it makes us miss each other more lol. TRying to not get into the habit of getting used to the feel of just my hand again as it doesn't bode well when I will need to adjust to the feel of sex again. ANyone have a problem with that? Anyhow yes, so what's other couples habits of sexytalk, text, calls and photos? It's been two months but It's likely going to be a further four until we see each other again. So just thinking in the long term and wanted peoples experiences. Thanks peeps!
folieadeux Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Hi John, my boyfriend and I have what I consider to be a high sex drive. We've always been long distance, but when we're together we have sex once or twice a day (definitely making up for the time we're apart ). When we can't be together, we're always sending pics/messages and do the whole "sexytalk" thing a few times a week. My boyfriend will stop playing around purposely right before a visit so he's ready to have sex again in the more traditional sense. Not sure if that would help you, but it's worth a shot.
Author JohnM Posted March 13, 2011 Author Posted March 13, 2011 I guess so, I plan to stop any self love, at least a couple of weeks before she comes over to visit. As I had trouble getting used to the sensations of sex when I was accustomed to the feeling of my hand. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't drawing too much attention to the sexual time really.
LittleTiger Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 We do a lot of flirting, sex talk and skype sex under normal circumstances, although at the moment we've both got a lot going on and lots of stress to deal with so things are a bit slow in that department right now. I'd be surprised if you have a problem reverting back to sex with your girlfriend. My partner likes to abstain for a couple of weeks before we see each other but, to be honest, I always ask him not to. If he's had no action for two weeks, he can get a little carried away the first time we're together after months apart. Carry on doing whatever you're doing if you're both enjoying it. As long as the stimulation you're getting is from your girlfriend I don't see how it's a problem. It's important to keep the intimate side of your relationship going in whatever way works for you. Then when you're back together you can just pick up where you left off.
Author JohnM Posted March 13, 2011 Author Posted March 13, 2011 Thanks for you reply, ended up on Skype the other night though I had no cam but she did. Made me want some naughty Skype time! I don't have a laptop with me though, just got to a place where I can lend one so for our anniversary I think some alone time on that is on the cards. Looking forward to it! It does keep me going, keeps me connected plus I like to know I'm keeping her sexually satisfied to the only extent I can and that she is happy with it.
aerogurl87 Posted March 13, 2011 Posted March 13, 2011 My boyfriend and I both have high sex drives and luckily our LDR just ended. :bunny: But when we were in one, we got into the habit of sending sexy pics to each other very often, probably a few times a week. Then I'd go out and buy lingerie and tell him about it and how I couldn't wait to wear it for him when I saw him again. Then we'd sometimes have phone sex (I will admit I hated it since it wasn't the real thing and was less fulfilling to me) and we'd text each other about what we wanted to do to each other. I'd also sometimes write him personalized erotica stories featuring us, as I love expressing myself through the written word. It all helped keep our needs met when we were far away from each other. Especially considering we averaged sex at least 7 times a week, sometimes more depending on how much free time we had and if our sex drives would kick into overdrive.
Author JohnM Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 It seems a high percentage of us in ldr have high sex drives, how annoying eh? Yeah, personalized sexy stories are always on the go. Usually send a block of ten photos every couple of days. A story every other. Call maybe twice a week. Since I don't have a laptop I'm going to try manage Skype every two weeks, just a pity it'll have to be in a public place. May be tempted to try some sexy Skype time anyway, can't help myself once I get in the mood.
Jennie1 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I know how you feel. Me and my SO are pretty much sexually frustrated the day we part. And sex drive, well lets just say 3 times in a day is nothing. Twice a requirement, hahaha We don't phone sex and don't have Skype yet. But, we do have some naughty talk and text. Which sometimes, can me more frustrating. Becuase I want him now!!!!!!!!!!!
Author JohnM Posted March 15, 2011 Author Posted March 15, 2011 It's a mixed feeling. Sometimes it all helps, other times it can make you worse. It's a fine balance between loneliness and bonding. Just depends on your mood I guess. But i more often than not view it as positive.
Jennie1 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 I totally agree about the fine balance. Because, even though I can get sad from at times. Always makes me smile and giggle when we are teasing eachother, about what will do when we get to see eachother again.
Kelter82 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 What I want to know is for those who went from highly sexual LDRs to not-so-LDRs, does the frequency of lovemaking (hehehe always sounds funny to me) decrease? The guy I'm sort-of-maybe seeing LD has a crazy high sex drive and whenever we're together a good portion of the day is occupied by sex. I'm talking three or four times a day until one of us physically demands a break... I've only ever been in one other relationship before and it started out highly sexual. As time went by I became unhappy with the relationship and the more unhappy I got the less sex we had (which turned into a fight, which turned into even less sex, etc). That's the way it seems, at least. So needless to say I have an unfortunately narrow window on the subject.
creighton0123 Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 Similar situation as you. Sometimes we masturbate offline. Sometimes I watch him. Sometimes he watches me. Sometimes we watch together. We don't take photos or trade photos outside of the occasional Skype snapshot. It works. Even in long distance relationships, sex can happen and it is completely appropriate. It's just LDR sex, not relationship sex. It's still hot.
HeavenOrHell Posted March 15, 2011 Posted March 15, 2011 It's important to have a sex life with each other during the time you're apart. If we didn't have sex together when we're not with each other it would seem more like a friendship, I think it's so important to keep that intimacy alive. I wouldn't feel fulfilled if we didn't. I worry a little he'll be more used to his hand and won't find it as nice with me but that doesn't seem to be the case Two months into being away from my girlfriend. Just wondering if anyone else seemed to fall into a similar thing sexually. We both have quite high drives. When together we would always have sex, generally turned out to be about six times a week I guess. We started sexy stories after about two weeks which we both now enjoy and we trade sexy photos pretty much every day. I seem to have the urge to masturbate nearly every day atm. We make a sexy call maybe once a week too. I don't know if it just helps to fulfill each others needs but we both enjoy it a lot, though sometimes it makes us miss each other more lol. TRying to not get into the habit of getting used to the feel of just my hand again as it doesn't bode well when I will need to adjust to the feel of sex again. ANyone have a problem with that? Anyhow yes, so what's other couples habits of sexytalk, text, calls and photos? It's been two months but It's likely going to be a further four until we see each other again. So just thinking in the long term and wanted peoples experiences. Thanks peeps!
Jennie1 Posted March 16, 2011 Posted March 16, 2011 What I want to know is for those who went from highly sexual LDRs to not-so-LDRs, does the frequency of lovemaking (hehehe always sounds funny to me) decrease? The guy I'm sort-of-maybe seeing LD has a crazy high sex drive and whenever we're together a good portion of the day is occupied by sex. I'm talking three or four times a day until one of us physically demands a break... I've only ever been in one other relationship before and it started out highly sexual. As time went by I became unhappy with the relationship and the more unhappy I got the less sex we had (which turned into a fight, which turned into even less sex, etc). That's the way it seems, at least. So needless to say I have an unfortunately narrow window on the subject. I have been there done that. I was married for 13yrs, and honestly thought something was wrong with me because I had no sex drive. It wasn't about the sex. It was about who I was with and how miserable I was. Which is the totally opposite of me and my SO. I can't get enough of him and think about it all the time. It isn't just sex, we are making love, we love eachother very much and are so happy with eachother. If you aren't in a good and happy loving relationship. Of course you wouldn't want to be with them in the bedroom. Makes total sense. With my ex, it wasn't my sex drive that dropped more of, no love left.
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