guitarguy09 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 we were together for two years. i treated her exceptionally nice but she left me for a guy she came to know 2 months ago. went No contact for one month and she says shes sorry and wants to be friends with me since our friendship was "genuine". problem is she is with this guy.. ATM after reassessing the situation, i feel really pissed off. The guy knew we were going out, and still hit on her. People tell me to beat him up, some people dont. I know its pretty immature for me to ask, but should i give him what he deserves?
PowerOfOne Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 People get what's coming to them - Don't you worry about that. But it's not for you to decided the whens, wheres and hows. Let life do it's thing, it'll do much better a job then a couple of broken teeth!
Author guitarguy09 Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 these seem like good solid advice to me. thanks guys. sometimes i just wonder what my ex would think of me if i for once stood my ground (beat people up) when we were together i never really showed a violent side, and this guy she left me for practically beats people up on impulse.
PowerOfOne Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Sounds like a real catch this guy. One day he'll pick a fight with the wrong person. Seen it happen many, many times.
Jennet Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 No no no, no beating up. He should not have been hitting on a girl he knew was in a relationship, but it wasn't like he bound and gagged her then stole her away. It is just as much her fault, maybe more. But if you're thinking of beating this guy up, your girlfriend deserves it just as much. That doesn't mean beat them both up! Just don't go thinking it's all his fault. She should have treated you better at the end.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Pacifism, not violence. That's the way to go.
Author guitarguy09 Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 Do you want to have a violent side? not really, it just isnt me to be doing that kind of stuff although i sometimes wonder what she would've thought of me if i was a bit more of an *******
betterdeal Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 not really That's your answer. it just isnt me to be doing that kind of stuff although i sometimes wonder what she would've thought of me if i was a bit more of an ******* fugnose what she'd think. If she likes that sort of thing and you don't, you aren't well suited. Lots of women like to have a violent thug for the violence and sex, and a thoughtful, kind, decent guy for the emotional connection. Lots of men like to have something similar - a fiery, passionate mistress and a quiet, considerate wife. Then again, lots more men and women like to have a partner they love and trust and have good times with and are happy with each other so much so that they find all the love and sex they need in the relationship without involving a third party. Just be yourself.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 not really, it just isnt me to be doing that kind of stuff although i sometimes wonder what she would've thought of me if i was a bit more of an ******* Do you really want to be with a girl who likes that kind of thing? You're better off without her.
Good Arms Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 (edited) While I'd feel no sympathy for a guy like that getting a beating (moving in on your gf, having a reputation for violence), it doesn't mean it's right to resort to his methods of dealing with confrontations. Far from it. DON'T do it. I think you know that. By not showing a violent side, you've ALREADY proved you're a better person than someone who resorts to neanderthal violence. Let's move society forwards, not backwards. If your ex can so easily fall for a brain-dead loser like this thug, then it reflects a lot on her personality - though break-ups hurt unlike anything else, I hope in time you'll appreciate she wasn't who you thought she was. If she really was only going to be happy with you if you had a violent side, then you're better off trying to move on, in the knowledge that YOU are too good for her. I don't get these girls who are attracted to psychos. When I see a guy with a violent side, I see no reason why they wouldn't turn that violence on their girlfriends too when things get tough. Why these girls are shocked when their feckless dregs of a partner turn violent on them is beyond me. Edited March 12, 2011 by Good Arms
carhill Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 I know its pretty immature for me to ask, but should i give him what he deserves? You ask a good question. It sounds like he got what he deserves. You deserve better. Save the violence for incidents of grave personal peril and take them out without remorse. There's a time and place for everything. Now is not the time nor place (for violence) and, if anything, your life just got better. Good luck
Stilicho Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 dont go and search fpr the guy to beat him up, although he deserves it, u could get in alot of trouble. DO be prepared however, in case you bump into him and he tries to act like a tough guy. Worked for me, as im in a very similar situation to you, and being that i work a block away from my ex and her new guy, bumping into each other was inevitable. the one time ive seen him, he ran into his car and left, i guess my ex told him i used to box in h.s, lol. for a guy tattooed up and dressing like some gangster, he was quite pathetic. dont look for trouble, but if he comes for you, give it to him.
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