ate_the_paint Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 It's been awhile since I checked up on LS. I guess I've selfishly ignored one of the pillars of support I leaned on 3 years ago when my relationship came to a terrible end. You can read it here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t156141/ Reading everyone's posts brought back a lot of memories of what I went through in those dark days of '08, and I wanted to let everybody know that things change drastically if you empower yourself. I know because my life is completely changed around now. Of course, I took a drastic route. I had always wanted to visit Russia (I've always had a fascination with Russian history), so after the dust settled from the spectacular explosion of my relationship, I made the decision to quit my job and go teach English in Moscow. That was 2008. It's 2011 now and I just returned home few weeks ago. Needless to say that in that time I found a new and stronger sense of self (an incredibly liberating feeling once you sort out all those yucky feelings from the past), I enjoyed my independence immensely (it wasn't about dating and sleeping around, although that was enjoyable) and I found new love. 2 1/2 years after my breakup I married a wonderful lady who is everything my ex wasn't and now I feel blessed to have such an angel in my life, and stupid for putting up with my ex's bs for so long. The point of this story is that you will get through these dark times in your life. I can guarantee you that the life you had with your ex is over. It's done and it is never coming back. That may sound like tough love but it's a fact. And that's good, because the new life you will lead is 100% yours to build. You can engineer it anyway you want. Didn't like how your ex wouldn't let you spend money on something frivolous? Well, screw them. Go out and buy yourself a pair of shoes or an Xbox. This is your life now. Ever wished your ex would snuggle more with you, or give you more space? Great! Because in the future you will find someone who does those things. Take it from me. I posted a lot here while I was confused and hurt, and I got a lot of advice and support from great people going through the same thing. Now I want to repay that by telling you that the hurt will end and you will come out of this shiny and new! PS: 3 years NC
D78 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Thanks! I love it when people return to say life can be good again. I can never hear that too many times. I read your post from back in the day. Wow. Congrats on pursuing your dream to live in Russia. That must have been wonderful. Did your ex's actions have any influence on your decision to get married? I guess I'm wondering if you were apprehensive about it because you remembered what your ex did, or if you were able to let it go and see your wife as a new person in a new situation. Are you a better SO because of what your ex did?
Fern Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Thanks for coming back! We need more positive posts round here! I love hearing stories like this.
broken-and-lost Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 hey thanks for coming back and posting it's nice to here something positive in difficult time
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