Anna86 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 So this may seem a little strange so I am not quite sure what to do. One of close friends has recently gone traveling. She is seeing this guy for a few months and is REALLY into him. He is one of the first guys that she has really fallen for in years and I have never seen her so happy!! I am really happy for her as I think they really suit. I am new to where I live so she said that he would show me around and take me out to meet his friends while she is gone for a few months. She said he likes him so much she wants her friends to get to know him. Plus, she is friends with my ex and I would have no problem if she met up with him as friends while we were together as I trust them both. Anyway, last night I met up with him. We went to a bar and met his friends. They were all so nice and I had a lot of fun. I spent most of my night talking about my ex.. He gave me good advice as has been through the same things before. So, after we had a few drinks he should we should go back to his and chill out and watch some movies!! I thought this would be fun. I have a lot of male friends, gay and straight so I have no problems with hanging out with male friends!! I am a really relaxed person, and I just act the same around guys and girls (maybe this is wrong)...I just open up to people really easily and get really relaxed around both men and women easier than most people. So we were watching a movie, I was laughing and he was making food. I get the feeling he was a lot drunker than me. He started to tell me he thought I was pretty and he can't see why my ex broke up with me. He said he thought I was a really cool girl. I just said thanks and went back to the movie. Again, that is something a male or female friend would say so I was thankful for the compliment. I was laying down watching the movie, he climbed behind me and put his arms on my waist. He lay up right behind me like my boyfriend would and got way too close for my liking. I froze and waited for him to move away. Then, he started touching my foot with his foot and getting REALLY close. He wouldn't stop after a few minutes so I got up and went to the bathroom. I got really freaked out as I just feel it was inappropriate! He is my friends boyfriend, I just presumed that I could hang out with him and be myself. So I got up and left as quick as I could. I told my friend in the bathroom and he told me to leave asap and how I was an idiot to not understand what happened. I have been told I naive when it comes to men. I never notice if a guy is hitting on me. I just think he is friendly and in turn act really friendly back like I would with a girl. Again, I have a lot of male friends who I just hang out with and its normal for me to act comfortable around men. So what I am asking is did he cross the line? I didn't feel comfortable by physical stuff. If that was my boyfriend, and he touched a girl like that I would be furious. I am torn between telling her so she can decide if she trusts him or not. But she is REALLY happy with him so I don't want to tell her if I am being silly. But at the same time I think she should know. I mean, he didn't try to kiss me or anything, just started to cuddle me. It gave me the creeps. Is this normal male behavior? any advice please.....
jnj express Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 The guy was coming on to you, and wanted you to respond in kind---you definitely need to tell your GF what kind of a scumbag she has hooked up with, so she can make an informed decision about what she wants to do as to her future with her scumbag cheating BF
spice4life Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 So what I am asking is did he cross the line? I didn't feel comfortable by physical stuff. If that was my boyfriend, and he touched a girl like that I would be furious. I am torn between telling her so she can decide if she trusts him or not. But she is REALLY happy with him so I don't want to tell her if I am being silly. But at the same time I think she should know. I mean, he didn't try to kiss me or anything, just started to cuddle me. It gave me the creeps. Is this normal male behavior? any advice please..... Yes, he absolutely, without a doubt, crossed a HUGE line and yes, I would tell your friend because he is HER boyfriend. Keep one thing in mind, guys can mistake a girl being friendly for flirting. Keep this in mind for future reference. It sounds like you are not sure of yourself and may be looking for some kind of validation. This guy probably sensed that and took advantage of the opportunity. When you are sure of yourself a guy will not try to cross the line. And if by chance, you happen to be hanging out with one who will hit on you no matter what signals your giving, then set him straight immediately and leave.
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