justsam Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Well, I've been posting more and more lately so here is my story. While there was no physical contact that I can verify, my now ex-girlfriend commented to someone that a guy she has met caught her eye. This eventually got back to me. To make a long story short, I confronted her about it and she admitted that she was attracted to him. I really don't like playing games so I let her know that if she didn't want to be together then say so. She was steadfast in saying that I was the one she wanted so we left it at that. Later down the road she became distant and less affectionate- NOT A GOOD SIGN! I was finally fed up with her act so I dumped her. In my mind, this is what she wanted. My question is- Why don't these people come out and say what they feel? Instead of deceiving your partner, just say "I don't want to be with you anymore." Sure its going to hurt, but its better than lying about the situation. Soon after she began calling and texting that I broke her heart- ARE YOU ****ING SERIOUS? At one point her parents came to my house and her mother begged me to get back with her because she became depressed. I let them know what had happened between us- you know what? She never mentioned the "other guy" to them. I guess her story to them was a little one-sided. I spent two years with her. We had some good times, but I will never get over the fact that she looked at someone else "in that regard." I'm not going to toot my own horn, but I've been told that I'm a very attractive guy. I've had many offers to stray, even from her acquaintances, but it never crossed my mind to cheat on her. If I'm able to resist temptation, why couldn't she do it?
WorldIsYours Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Well, I've been posting more and more lately so here is my story. While there was no physical contact that I can verify, my now ex-girlfriend commented to someone that a guy she has met caught her eye. This eventually got back to me. To make a long story short, I confronted her about it and she admitted that she was attracted to him. I really don't like playing games so I let her know that if she didn't want to be together then say so. She was steadfast in saying that I was the one she wanted so we left it at that. Later down the road she became distant and less affectionate- NOT A GOOD SIGN! I was finally fed up with her act so I dumped her. In my mind, this is what she wanted. My question is- Why don't these people come out and say what they feel? Instead of deceiving your partner, just say "I don't want to be with you anymore." Sure its going to hurt, but its better than lying about the situation. Soon after she began calling and texting that I broke her heart- ARE YOU ****ING SERIOUS? At one point her parents came to my house and her mother begged me to get back with her because she became depressed. I let them know what had happened between us- you know what? She never mentioned the "other guy" to them. I guess her story to them was a little one-sided. I spent two years with her. We had some good times, but I will never get over the fact that she looked at someone else "in that regard." I'm not going to toot my own horn, but I've been told that I'm a very attractive guy. I've had many offers to stray, even from her acquaintances, but it never crossed my mind to cheat on her. Glad you dumped the tramp. If you look back into your now dissolved relationship, you can probably see signs of cheating that you never realized at first glance when you were around her. If I'm able to resist temptation, why couldn't she do it? Because she has no moral code and no character. It's not that she couldn't resist, but she gave in. Because she wanted to. She wasn't forced to. Millions of people always wonder on the why of their spouse/mate cheating on them when the answer is clear: Because they wanted to. Pure selfishness.
spice4life Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Well, I've been posting more and more lately so here is my story. While there was no physical contact that I can verify, my now ex-girlfriend commented to someone that a guy she has met caught her eye. This eventually got back to me. To make a long story short, I confronted her about it and she admitted that she was attracted to him. I really don't like playing games so I let her know that if she didn't want to be together then say so. She was steadfast in saying that I was the one she wanted so we left it at that. Later down the road she became distant and less affectionate- NOT A GOOD SIGN! I was finally fed up with her act so I dumped her. In my mind, this is what she wanted. My question is- Why don't these people come out and say what they feel? Instead of deceiving your partner, just say "I don't want to be with you anymore." Sure its going to hurt, but its better than lying about the situation. Soon after she began calling and texting that I broke her heart- ARE YOU ****ING SERIOUS? At one point her parents came to my house and her mother begged me to get back with her because she became depressed. I let them know what had happened between us- you know what? She never mentioned the "other guy" to them. I guess her story to them was a little one-sided. I spent two years with her. We had some good times, but I will never get over the fact that she looked at someone else "in that regard." I'm not going to toot my own horn, but I've been told that I'm a very attractive guy. I've had many offers to stray, even from her acquaintances, but it never crossed my mind to cheat on her. If I'm able to resist temptation, why couldn't she do it? If it's truly that difficult for you to deal with then she is probably not the right match for you anyway. I agree whole heartedly. If a person wants out then they should say so. It's difficult, but it is also very freeing. It cuts the final cord and allows both of you to move on. Hope you figure it out.
Author justsam Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 Thanks for the few replies. I know I'm not wrong. And yes, now that I reflect upon it, this might have been going on longer than I estimated. As I've said earlier, the issue is not the love that was lost, but the deception. Its like living a lie the last couple of years... the lost opportunities I had with others, who maybe would've returned my love like it is supposed to be. I remember a girl who I would have liked to know better, but it would have amounted to cheating(emotionally). I always thought of her face(my ex) and didn't want to hurt her. All the while she was thinking about this guy. If I was a real jerk I would have thrown it in her face that her own friend made a pass at me in her own home... "put that in your pipe and smoke it." Sometimes I think I should just bang her to even things out. It pisses me off when cheaters act as if there is only one person involved in a relationship... only their feelings count. She knows I have no problem in that department(women). It seems like she was done with me, but didn't want anyone else to have me either. WTF?
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