purple_cloud Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 I recently had ONS with someone I knew for a while. Since then he has been avoiding me completely and not responding to my texts. Fair enough, it was just sex and I knew it. When I did the "walk of shame" the morning after, I borrowed his jacket. It was freezing outside, snowing even and I wasn't adequately dressed. This was 2.5 weeks ago. I am fine with not seeing him again but really want to return his jacket. I am considering e-maling him and asking for his address so that I can post it. Should I just do nothing and wait for him to ask for it back? I feel bad that I am keeping his stuff. Good people of LS what would you do?
Author purple_cloud Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 Haha good idea. I was raised to have manners and respect people even when they are less than kind to me.
Fondue Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 You said you knew him for a while? I wouldn't consider that a one night stand. As far as returning the jacket... If you're confident you won't ever see/contact/etc. him again, then you could get rid of it. I wouldn't put it in the trash, because that's a little disrespectful to both you and him, but I would at least donate it to charity, or something. Make good use if it. I was brought up with that in notion. If you don't have a use for something, don't just throw it away. Someone else may benefit from it. "Your trash may be someone else's treasure," or however that saying goes.
Cee Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 He hasn't returned your texts and have avoided you, which has sent the message he'd rather you keep the jacket than contact you and retrieve it. The onus was on him to ask for the jacket back. And he didn't. Keep it if you want it or donate it to charity so a person has something warm to wear. That's a good way to pay it forward, so to speak.
Author purple_cloud Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 Thanks cee...I will wait another week and donate it to charity then. I certainly don't want to keep it.
Jynxx Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Have you texted him you're giving away his jacket? Cause you should, and if you don't get an answer in a couple days that's an "I don't care" and you can give it away
welikeincrowds Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 What kind of jacket is it? I could use a new spring jacket
OliveOyl Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Walk of shame? You didn't do anything wrong. You have his jacket, I'd just email him and ask him if he wants it back. No drama. If he doesn't respond, there's your answer.
SmileFace Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Why do women have one night stands? I would ask why people but I know different genders are different - so I don't feel like bull ****ting the question.
Sanman Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 The proper procedure is to sleep with him again and kick him out with nothing on but your dress. That way each of you has at least a piece of each others clothing and you are even.
alphamale Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Should I just do nothing and wait for him to ask for it back? that sounds good and if he never asks for it then you can keep the jacket as a nice momento
welikeincrowds Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Why do women have one night stands? I would ask why people but I know different genders are different - so I don't feel like bull ****ting the question. Probably to have sex, right? Or self-esteem? I see your point but I think the reasons really are the same. Besides the differences between men and women are more subtle than that. This may be a bull**** analogy, how easily can you tell the difference between a male and female cat? But to cats, we assume it's obvious, right? The distinction between our sexes is obvious to us, and so we assume there must be these significant differences, but I think the commonalities are more available and also more important. I'm sure you agree with what I'm saying. Walk of shame? I can relate. Morning after sucks, especially if drinking was involved. It's always best to leave without staying over, in my opinion.
SmileFace Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Probably to have sex, right? Or self-esteem? I see your point but I think the reasons really are the same. . @ bolded Yes, I agree but wouldn't casual sex be more safe. I mean how hard is it for a women to find a guy just for sex. However I know the answer - since people are more likely to catch feelings. I don't know if I can just meet a guy one night and have sex with him. I mean I have no problems with casual sex but random sex scares me. I think it is the planner in me. Haha, planned sex. Then women get in these situation and worry about if he is going to call. Why have an ONS? Women seem to aspect contact after random hook ups. I don't know it is weird. Even in this OP she mentioned that he went no contact. shrugs.
alphamale Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 i like to keep momentos from my ONS like panties or stockings...
Author purple_cloud Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 It happened randomly. We were hanging out and had a bit too much to drink. I slept over without cuddling or anything. The next morning it was awkward and there was dead silence I just continued occasional texts and FB messages like we did before sex. Never did I mention sex or us. He avoided me like a plague. I feel like telling him to chill man. I sometimes enjoy the walks of shame. The crisp air, the walking off the hangover, the time to reflect on how you just f.ked a stranger or someone who is about to become a stranger. It's bitter sweet. Life is all about experiences. I may just hang on to the jacket
depplover_1980 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Everyone should have at least one one-night-stand. There is nothing like staring into the face of a stangers butthole.
musemaj11 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 How is he a stranger if you had known him for a while?
carhill Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Sounds like he was a 4fer for her, hence 'about to become a stranger'. Compartmentalizing sex can be a double-edged sword. Hope it works out
Author purple_cloud Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 I don't know him well enough to tell. We are acquaintances - no idea about his relationship or sexual history. I would not date him, I just wanted to somehow return the damn jacket.
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Quote: Originally Posted by Mme. Chaucer Was he an Asian fetishist? He probably was, and then was disillusioned when he sobered up enough to realize that his conquest was actually a blonde Caucasian. No wonder he won't return her calls. OP - I would bet big money that you could figure out to do with such a garment without the help of the good people of LoveShack. Couldn't you.
Author purple_cloud Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 No idea what any of you are on about.
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