We had such an amazing Relationship and then Broke up with me out of Nowhere?

[I_dont_understand]

I was with this guy for a while and he did everything for me, and I gave back so it wasn't one side. He would open doors for me, pull out my chair. I would fall asleep in his arms and wake up in his arms. He introduced me to his family, told me I'm amazing. Talked about future plans with me. He told me a month ago he was starting to have serious feelings for me and it scared him. The day he wanted to take a step back was unexpected. That morning he held me in his arms and we cuddled before I had to leave and he said he will see me later that night. Then he called me that night adn said hes been thinking and he wants to take a step back. Meaning date me casually but be open to other suggestions. Why would he want to do that. Everyone was SHOCKED with what happened. Even his best friends. Whats the deal. If he liked me he wouldn't want to see me with other guys so he must be over it. He still contacts me everyday. He said he wanted to get my necklace fixed becasue he didnt like seeing other necklaces on me. He still talked about future plans. But still doesnt know what he wants. I dont understand. What do I do I'm so upset?

[willowthewisp]

You go out and get a book called Why men love b!tches by Sherry Argov, read it. In the meantime you don't show any emotion or attitude about his wavering, but pull back emotionally yourself, when he calls, do not answer every time, when he does finally get a hold of you, tell him you've been busy having fun, going out etc. You have to show him you are fine with or without him and that you love yourself more. You will understand after you read the book. This isn't about manipulation or trying to get him to come back, this is about respecting yourself enough NOT to let men treat you badly.

 

If he comes back, great, if not it won't matter to you, once you read this book and understand it's message you will finally understand your own worth. I only read it recently and I think it's already helped me.

[Mcnulty]

"Be open to other suggestions"!!!! Does that mean BOTH of you can have relations with other people whilst "casually" dating each other? This is all on his terms.

 

He sounds like either commitment phobic or he has maybe been hurt in the past and is scared of that happening again.

 

Agree with Willow, it's about you respecting yourself, so yes, I would completely back off from him and start thinking about you.

 

He can't have it all his own way.

[TurboGirl]

Sounds like he scared himself. Got in too deep and literally said WHOA wait a minute...

 

You, my dear, need to take care of yourself and do not sit around & wait for him. Go out, meet other guys, spend time with your friends. Do not be available for this guy. Also, read that book Why Men Love Bitches. I swear, it does work. You have to put yourself FIRST always.