ubetcha Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 Last night my exboyfriend texted me a picture he had taken on his phone of me when we were together. There were no words attached. Just a picture. We have been apart 6 months. He left me for another woman after 6 years together. He has texted me every 2 weeks since we have been apart with "I miss you" and such. I havnt responded in over 2 months. Complete silence. I dont think it is guilt based because no words were attached. Sending a picture would not relieve the guilt I dont think. What do you think of this? Im shocked he still has pictures of me on his phone. His new lady would not like this.
willowthewisp Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 He's using you for an ego stroke. Not a decent guy and you are worth way more than that. Keep NC, you are doing exactly the right thing, oh and maybe get his number blocked?
Mcnulty Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 He's trying a different tact to see if he can get a reaction out of you....don't react!! You're right his new lady would not like it. Think to yourself, if he can do this to a new partner, he could do it to you if you ever got back together. His stupidity has shown his true colours don't you think?
ate_the_paint Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Wow! That is incredible! Good work on the NC, that shows real strength on your part. With behaviour like that, be glad you're not with him. I know you will be happy about it in the future when the dust settles.
rikk60 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 I suggest blocking the guy. I mean, what's his intent here? I think it can be really healthy to have contact with ex partners. There CAN be growth there, but emotional grenades are not ok. Example: Growing through the issues and stuff that were misguided and unhealthy... Sharing mutual enlightenment on some level could be awesome, but I think a cooling off period is an absolute must and any communication should carry with it absolute accountability. You know, like not hurting a current love interest in any way. Not hiding, and being as honest as possible. Just sayin'
Movingthrough Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Yeah its guilt. The minute you respond you will never hear from him again, so dont respond (as weird as that sounds). As a guy, i can remember breaking it off with an ex years ago, she was a great person she really was, and as time went on i found myself thinking of her a lot. I wanted to do certain things to show her i care (i never did) and would have thoughts all the time about her. Sometimes i would reach out and the minute we made a plan, i would pull out. Typical behavior, and my reasoning for it was because i knew she had more feelings for me and i didnt want to play her or build those feelings up for nothing. It was the tyical dumper behavior and im not proud of it. But if he broke from you for GIGS, then he broke from you for GIGS so do not respond.
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