Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Would this be cute or creepy? I hand the girl i like an index card with the words "you are so beautiful there are no spoken words to descibe you, will you go out with me?" Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 cheesy eitherway. if you're there to hand her the card, why make her stand there reading. say the words if you mean them. unless are you going to ask her out to the library? or for a date over IM? /sarcasm it's creepy if she doesn't like you and will say no anyway, it's cute if she does like you and would've said yes without the card. in conclusion, forego the card. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 hmmm..if she is artsy, the card could work, but you might want to make it more logical: as in, the written word best articulates your beauty. but you nonetheless run the risk of cheesiness. i agree: damn the card and ask the girl. i'm hoping this is the hot girl in class and not the one who may or may not be married? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Awful, DA--Grow some balls buddy, think about the message that sends. And cool it with the "you're so beautiful" crap, ask her out for a date, and find out more about her. Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Flattering but I doubt she'd accept. Talk to her. Aim for casual and fun. You want her to be tempted to get to know you better, not worried that she may break your heart or that you want to idolise her (rather than getting to know her as a real person). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 ok, just wondering, i wont use it, prolly wouldnt anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Renny_H Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Man, that card thing just strikes me as pathetic, DA. I'd never do that first up. I'd only ever send a letter or an email confessing my feelings when I'm desperate for a girl to notice me. But s***, you haven't even seen if this girl likes you yet (that's what I'm sensing). So approach her! Dammit, only ever use letters etc. when things are unstable, shaky and you need to be very articulate on the matter. I wouldn't say you'd make yourself creepy - but I'd think this girl would rather understand your personality, not judge you from a comment written on a card. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Yikes. Bad bad baaaaad idea. I think it kinda borders on creepy, to be honest. The wording especially. How about writing on an index card, "I want your eyes"? Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 bwhahhahha! then: "i think you would go well with some chianti" Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 give the guy a break! It's kind of sweet that he's even thought of something like this -- most young men I know just don't think in terms of romantic gestures. Sweet though it is, DA, it's just too soon in the relationship (such as it were) for you to be penning those kinds of notes. There's a time and a place (and NOT for when you're in trouble), for that. Usually, it's after you've gotten to know the person a little better. So, file the thought away for later, when your gal is hankering for romance. ... the sweetest suggestion I've heard came from a friend, who said he'd always wanted to be a little more original than "shove a bunch of flowers at a girl": his idea was to collect rose petals in an envelope and send them to her anonymously! So, it'd be kind of messy, but it shows the guy is thinking outside the box. As is darkangel Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 It doesnt matter anymore i found out she has a bf of about a month. Link to post Share on other sites
Dug Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Not all is lost...you can be a real "Romeo" and do some internet dating. That's almost like your card plan...just as impersonal anyway. Sorry....seriously....any way you meet someone is fine. Just remember that if everyone on here was well adjusted, content and had "the plan"...well....they wouldn't be on here. Link to post Share on other sites
Renny_H Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by Darkangelism It doesnt matter anymore i found out she has a bf of about a month. So what? If you don't compete, you'll never stand a chance of getting her. Link to post Share on other sites
CosmoGirl1391 Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Well.....it's a sweet thought, but anything you write down, you could just as easily say, so I dunno... But it's a sweet thought, dark. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by Renny_H So what? If you don't compete, you'll never stand a chance of getting her. Now, THAT is creepy. I can see trying to befriend her, but to try to be more than that if she's with someone is over stepping. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 I will not try to take her away from her bf, i will stay her friend though. Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Trying to befriend her because he likes her could be the same as trying to be more than friends.. eventually. The line is blurry there as far as overstepping. Many times upon mentioning I have a boyfriend when I'm being flirted with or even asked out I've heard "So?" or "That's okay." Although I'm of the persuasion that the persons in a relationship are the ones accountable for being faithful to each other and it isn't the rest of the worlds responsibility to respect their boundaries for them. Within certain limits. That is another discussion, I suppose. Link to post Share on other sites
judogirl Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Good for you, D-angelism.. While I agree the card thing is closer to creepy than cute, your heart is in the right place and there's nothing you can do about her having a BF....Time will tell if he's the right guy for her or not and if not, maybe then you can reveal your feelings for her--in person. Good luck! Judogirl Link to post Share on other sites
InmannRoshi Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Might as well give her a follow up card that says "Listen, you and I both know I'm going to end up stalking you. So why dont you save us and the legal system a lot of time and just INVITE me over to sniff your panty drawer." Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by InmannRoshi Might as well give her a follow up card that says "Listen, you and I both know I'm going to end up stalking you. So why dont you save us and the legal system a lot of time and just INVITE me over to sniff your panty drawer." actually i find that hilarious. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 Originally posted by InmannRoshi Might as well give her a follow up card that says "Listen, you and I both know I'm going to end up stalking you. So why dont you save us and the legal system a lot of time and just INVITE me over to sniff your panty drawer." Now, that's a little overboard. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted March 31, 2004 Share Posted March 31, 2004 But straight to the point. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darkangelism Posted March 31, 2004 Author Share Posted March 31, 2004 Yes thats true, but it wasnt something that i would do probably anyway, and now its moot. Link to post Share on other sites
Renny_H Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 I tried to court this girl (still am). Eventually, she told me she doesn't have a boyfriend, BUT she's seeing a guy. Whatever. I can't buy that. Never mind. Anyhow, afterwards I sent her an email, telling her (in a cheesy sonnet) the crush I had on her. It was all in a joking, self-mocking manner, and I totally made it known I understand what her feelings are about me. Anyway, she strides up to me and tells me TWICE it was a lovely email, then as I'm leaving school for the day, she purposely chases after me to tell me my email was lovely AGAIN! And I'm totally acting like I've given up, I'm just mucking around, being cool about being friends, but she's looking at me so powerfully, not laughing, and saying, "Your email was really lovely." So you can still compete for a girl's affection; just do it in a sublimial, restrained and gentleman-like manner. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted April 1, 2004 Share Posted April 1, 2004 Renny, no matter how rational your posts are, they still always scare me--you DO realize that you'll find yourself in a more meaningful relationship if the girl is involved on account of her own volition, subliminally or otherwise--right? Link to post Share on other sites
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