It's been...almost 4 months...and i'm good :)

[Rosberg]

So some of you may remember having seen my thread on here around november 17th last year, but i left and haven't come back since because well...i found my own ways to get over the evil ex and i gotta tell ya, it's goood.

 

 

So just to let everybody know here, the first thing is, that when you get dumped is You're NOT supposed to blame Yourself, your dumper has a problem.

 

but okay, about my ex, the evil bitch

 

She dumped me for a guy she met on skype (yeah, online) and they were already flirting when we were dating, but i didn't take the jealous route, and ive wondered about that a few times, but i always end up with the end result; if i would have gotten jealous she might not have cared/if i would have threatened him she might have left me anyway, so off with that then

 

She's been sending me text messages every couple weeks since she broke up with me, about a particular incident which happent when we started dating...so the first night we were dating, she went home to her uncle (of whom she was staying at the time) and at home i was drinking redbull and talking to her on skype so all of a sudden i said to her "i'll be right back". So i ran up to the house she was in, hardly two blocks away, and snuck in through her window a can of redbull. So i returned home, and told her to check her window, only to find out i'd put the redbull in through her uncle's bedroom window...

 

We both laughed our asses off, but that's the end of that.

 

She's been sending me texts reminding me of that particular incident every couple weeks since she broke up with me, and last time she did, i wrote back "Get the **** out of my head".

 

i know she misses me, but she was my girlfriend, and my best friend for that matter, and she betrayed me by breaking up with me for somebody she didn't even eff-ing know, so she doesn't deserve my friendship.

 

Just my two cents

 

You Don't need to be friends with your ex if they treated you ****, YOU'RE WORTH SO MUCH MORE

 

IF THEY SEEM TO WANT YOU BACK, JUST WALK AWAY, IF THEY ASK, TELL THEM THEY HAD THEIR CHANCE.

[silvermane187]

Good for you buddy. I'm at 5 months with my ex never making first contact and no where near as well adjusted as you. You should be proud of yourself.

[nowwhatnow]

wow that is so great for you!

its been 5 months since he dumped me and im still miserable. he tried to text me once to invite to his bday gathering and i wrote back a sassy reply and never heard from him again. f*ck i miss him.

 

how did you get over her so quickly/efficiently?

[Rosberg]

wow that is so great for you!

its been 5 months since he dumped me and im still miserable. he tried to text me once to invite to his bday gathering and i wrote back a sassy reply and never heard from him again. f*ck i miss him.

 

how did you get over her so quickly/efficiently?

 

She basicly treated me like ****, and having friends who back you up on the thought "i really deserve alot better, don't i" helps heaps.

 

Also listening to alot of music, and just generally getting your mind straight helps so much

 

And i've kept my mind locked to the part where it's a big bad betrayal that she broke up with me to start dating a guy she was already flirting with while we were dating.

 

Everybody deserves someone they can love, someone they can trust, someone who won't get so easily distracted, and can't easily be manipulated into loving someone else they don't even know, just because they "love the idea".

 

You can also get over your past relationship, I Believe in you

[is2008]

Nice post. How I love success stories.

 

I'm following the same route that you took and I'm beginning to feel the benefits and my self worth is creeping up slowly. I'm starting to believe in myself again.

 

What's even more refreshing is that you've not mentioned you're dating someone new... you seem happy with yourself! I want to be where you are in 4 months and I'm confident I can be!

 

Best wishes.

[Rose T]

She basicly treated me like ****, and having friends who back you up on the thought "i really deserve alot better, don't i" helps heaps.

 

Also listening to alot of music, and just generally getting your mind straight helps so much

 

And i've kept my mind locked to the part where it's a big bad betrayal that she broke up with me to start dating a guy she was already flirting with while we were dating.

 

Everybody deserves someone they can love, someone they can trust, someone who won't get so easily distracted, and can't easily be manipulated into loving someone else they don't even know, just because they "love the idea".

 

You can also get over your past relationship, I Believe in you

 

 

Thanks Rosberg. I really needed to hear this today. I'm three months out of the break-up and having really good days but I would dearly love to be where you are at this time next month. Keep posting your cheery stuff!!

[swfc_77]

but i didn't take the jealous route, and ive wondered about that a few times, but i always end up with the end result; if i would have gotten jealous she might not have cared/if i would have threatened him she might have left me anyway, so off with that then

 

i have been thinking about this lately, what is the best thing to do?

 

are you suppose to have a quiet word, sit back and hope he/she take what you have said onboard

 

or do you kick off about the whole situation.

 

i did both in my previous relationship, i found messages more than once and at first i tried to take the calm, easy route but after a while i sort of had enough of it, especially as she would go ballistic if i ever recieved female attention.

 

i had hold of 1 of her male college friends who were txting her suggestive messages, and i think it went dead from there but i'll never know.

 

do you think it would have gone differently if you'd have had a word with the kid she with now Rosberg?

[Rosberg]

but i didn't take the jealous route, and ive wondered about that a few times, but i always end up with the end result; if i would have gotten jealous she might not have cared/if i would have threatened him she might have left me anyway, so off with that then

 

i have been thinking about this lately, what is the best thing to do?

 

are you suppose to have a quiet word, sit back and hope he/she take what you have said onboard

 

or do you kick off about the whole situation.

 

i did both in my previous relationship, i found messages more than once and at first i tried to take the calm, easy route but after a while i sort of had enough of it, especially as she would go ballistic if i ever recieved female attention.

 

i had hold of 1 of her male college friends who were txting her suggestive messages, and i think it went dead from there but i'll never know.

 

do you think it would have gone differently if you'd have had a word with the kid she with now Rosberg?

 

 

Good Question sir

 

Now i'm not the jealous type, i mean, when you're in love with someone, you respect them, and you hope they love and respect you back, right?.

 

The two Essentials of a successful relationship in my opinion, are Love, and Trust, without them, you're heading for a nearby ditch.

 

I personally, am not the jealous type because i just don't know why, but i don't get jealous like that.

 

Would i have liked to have a word with the guy flirting with my girlfriend, sure, but what would i've said?, and more importantly, would threatening him make me any more of an alpha male?, i very much doubt so.

 

I did come to think of talking to my ex about how he stole her from me and being /whiny but that just isn't me, and if that isn't you, then don't start being that kind of person.

 

Just be yourself, and if you got a girlfriend who was hot, but apparently not the right cup of tea, you shouldn't give your love away so easily, i know for a fact that i won't in the near future.

[Rose T]

Good Question sir

 

Now i'm not the jealous type, i mean, when you're in love with someone, you respect them, and you hope they love and respect you back, right?.

 

The two Essentials of a successful relationship in my opinion, are Love, and Trust, without them, you're heading for a nearby ditch.

 

I personally, am not the jealous type because i just don't know why, but i don't get jealous like that.

 

Would i have liked to have a word with the guy flirting with my girlfriend, sure, but what would i've said?, and more importantly, would threatening him make me any more of an alpha male?, i very much doubt so.

 

I did come to think of talking to my ex about how he stole her from me and being /whiny but that just isn't me, and if that isn't you, then don't start being that kind of person.

 

Just be yourself, and if you got a girlfriend who was hot, but apparently not the right cup of tea, you shouldn't give your love away so easily, i know for a fact that i won't in the near future.

 

 

I think this is spot on. I was in a similar situation and remained very cool, because I believed in my ex. But he cheated and now we're through. And you know, getting jealous and crazy wouldn't have changed a thing.

 

You don't have to be your girlfriend or boyfriend's moral gatekeeper. If they don't know that flirting or getting close to other people isn't cool, they aren't right for you. It also doesn't really happen in my opinion, everyone knows it's wrong... they just get to a point where they don't CARE enough about you so they let their guard down. Either way, they're not right for you.

 

We are all responsible for our own faithfulness in relationships. Having someone nag you about that, I suspect, doesn't change anything.

 

Now, in long relationships / marriages, do you have to stay aware at signs of emotional checking out, potential pre-affair issues? Probably a really good idea. But that's about maintaining a healthy relationship together and should be part of a long-term communication strategy, I imagine.

[swfc_77]

i can understand what your saying Rosberg,

 

Now i'm not the jealous type, i mean, when you're in love with someone, you respect them, and you hope they love and respect you back, right?.

 

The two Essentials of a successful relationship in my opinion, are Love, and Trust, without them, you're heading for a nearby ditch.

 

i think some people just abuse and take your trust for granted, i could have been very jealous but i let things go to certain extent, then after 8-12 months i started to realise that it "takes 2 to tango"

 

i look back now and think of the relationship as a bit of a joke, and a waste of time, which is sad really after 2 years living together.

 

but i guess i should have been braver and bit the bullet after she carried on sending/recieving random message to random guys over facebook/txt/ect.

 

it makes me wonder how much tolerance to give the person i have my next relationship with, where do you draw the line?

 

do you just throw the towel in straight away or give them a chance if you catch them f****** about.

[swfc_77]

ps, i trusted her and didn't do anything rash at first because i wanted her to make her own choice and hopefully see herself what she was doing was not fair and not the way you treat someone your living with and suppose to love.

[swfc_77]

sorry its like quiz night this,

 

but why do people flirt/message ect with the others when they are in a committed relationship, but then go absolutley mental as soon as you look/talk to anyone they see as a threat.

 

like 1 rule for 1 and another rule for the other.

 

i never pursued any other women as i was with someone, if i wanted someone else i would have ended my relationship.

 

dont get me wrong the temptation was there quite alot, but i always said to myself "im with someone"

[ReturnToSender]

So awesome and encouraging to read this...thanks for sharing!!!

 

(that story about the red bull is cute lol but Im sure youd be happy to never hear it again)

[Rosberg]

So awesome and encouraging to read this...thanks for sharing!!!

 

(that story about the red bull is cute lol but Im sure youd be happy to never hear it again)

 

 

thanks, i know the redbull story is cute, but indeed, i would LOVE not to hear it again for the next 10 years or so.

 

 

now my only thought is about what girl do i pick next, i mean, do i go out to a bar, slide up to a random girl i like/find hot, and start talking to her i mean njargh...i feel like there should be some other erm... foundation for the relationship...maybe i'm just losing my mind heh (just came home from sea yesterday morning, and yes the wether was horrid, to say the least).

 

 

But one thing is for sure, when i end up with a girl next time, and after about a week, i'll tell her that i'll be faithful to her if she'll be faithful to me, and that i don't take bull**** for granted, hopefully, she'll agree and we can be happy together...

 

Why's this got to be so damn difficult :/

 

this whole arguement inside my head just makes me want to put myself on ebay or something

[Rosberg]

i guess i'm not ready for a relationship yet, yes, i've been thinking about it.

 

 

One last pro tip: Even though sudden love may fall upon you without a warning, get ready with your judgement to let the one falling for you know wether you're ready for love

[Duckduckgoose]

IF THEY SEEM TO WANT YOU BACK, JUST WALK AWAY, IF THEY ASK, TELL THEM THEY HAD THEIR CHANCE.

 

THANK YOU! Truer words have never been spoken.

 

I you Rosberg you can be my bf