ahoy Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 So I decided to go for NC, I've deactivated facebook and deleted her number but I've got to see her today to get my stuff back. I'm guessing it's going to be a very brief encounter, exchange things and then leave. A bit of a background: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t268549/ I'm just wondering what I should actually say, baring in mind that I would like to reconcile but I aren't counting on it happening. I'd say there's a small chance, but nothing to get hyped up about. Basically I should just smile, be polite and "business like" and avoid anything relating to myself, her, or us from what I gather? Basically I'm expecting it to go a little like this: "Hi, how are you? Thanks for bringing the stuff. Bye" - but then I'm not sure whether asking her how she is will make I think I care, when I'm supposed to be attempting indifference. Short version: avoid small talk, make it brief, remain happy, avoid anything related to the relationship/us and be indifferent? Thanks.
Trovador Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 She'll know it's just a facade.. As you are going to fail anyway, just fail being yourself, and by that I don't mean begging her or crying or following her like a puppy... I mean stopping the games and pretenses and implementing NC as a way to heal yourself and starting to live again, as a free man... NC is harder when you do it as last resource to get her back. Be yourself and don't worry about what she will think if you say or not something appropriate. I know what I am talking about, I have had exes all my life, ha ha... good luck, you will be fine...
Author ahoy Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 That's what I'm doing haha, I'd like her back but I aren't worrying about whether I do or not. I've removed her from my life completely, I've been going out with friends and managed to get a couple of rebound dates. She's texting me a few short messages like "do you hate me? x" and I'm just sticking to my guns and living my life how I did before I even knew her. Thankfully I've got a large group of friends that she only knows through me, and they're all sticking loyal to me so I can actually go out with them and know for sure I won't see her.
Author ahoy Posted March 14, 2011 Author Posted March 14, 2011 "I miss you, hope you had a good weekend, Z told me she saw you. she says I've made a mistake haha, hope you're enjoying being single" Breadcrumbs I presume? I'm sticking to the no contact, and it really has turned into a case of out of mind, out of matter. I rarely think of her now, except when she messages me (which I aren't replying to). Thanks for the advice people, it's made this a lot easier to cope with - it's not my first break up, but it's the only one I've actually had a hard time with.
Layzie89 Posted March 14, 2011 Posted March 14, 2011 You got all the power int he world right now man. Hold strong until she tells you what you want to hear.
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