Serene111 Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 Married for 22 years and filed for divorce two weeks ago tomorrow. No children. He's struggled with alcholism for over 10 years and went through treatment about 20 months ago after near liver failure. Last fall - went through bankruptcy when his(our) business went out of business. This business was based on his trade - I too had my own business. Fast forward to January - I moved out of the bedroom after we talked about divorce. He's drinking again and I'm done with that (I'm a grateful member of alanon) and he feels I'm the ice queen and I'm the reason he drank. First of February - he hits a false bottom and "must" go to treatment. Required a medical detox for 5 days then treatment. He stayed for 48 hours and caught a greyhound home - stating treatment was "a waste of him time". We both want this divorce - just difference reasons. I've taken a new job in an industry that is not suffering like the one I was in. He's been a fulltime student for almost 2 years, on unemployment. So medical bills will probably be around $3-4k after insurance pays their part. My new job cannot afford this ... Am I wrong to think he should pay for these bills? I almost begged him to ask for and allow me to help when he was drinking and I threw my hands up ... hoping that it would force him into acceptance of his condition and get help. His AA sponsor was SO pissed about his actions around his treatment "visit". I need prespective - what is your view on this? I just don't understand how he feels so strongly about me "paying half" on this - I paid dearly for many years and also all the vodka and pizza I know it took both of us to get to this point ... I'm so far from perfect. We will never know what came first - chicken or the egg (drinking or the ice queen). SO appreciate your insight - REALLY appreciate this site ... I visit often!
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