blackmagik Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 So I have been in a wonderful dating situation with a girl that I care a lot about now. We met online, back in November but due to a busy holiday season we were unable to meet until January. Since then we have dated and spent a lot of time together. We have great chemistry and an amazing connection. I know she feels the same way as me too. My question is the "relationship" talk really necessary? I would typically wait for the girl to bring this conversation up, but she is very traditional so I don't think she would actually do it. However I have sometimes felt that this conversation just isn't necessary in all situations. Like I said I know our relationship is definitely on the right track and really there is nothing in the way.. Do I bring up the conversation, not worry about it at all, or what for her to bring it up and just let it to continue to flow how nicely it has been going?
Lilmisus Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 Each relationship is different, so there's no real answer to this question. But, since you said that she's more of a traditional type girl and since you seem interested in becoming exclusive with her, I'd say yea, bring it up. Most likely she's probably waiting for you to say something since she hasn't said anything about it yet (I presume), so on your next romantic date just casually ask if she'd like to be your girlfriend, or if she considers herself to be your girlfriend. One thing you don't want though, is to have it be awkward and wait too long to bring it up and have multiple people saying "so you're his girlfriend?" to her and her having to say "Mmm..kind of, more like a girl..who's a friend, who likes to kiss him, ya know? Unless he says otherwise, that is." Happened to me. Not pleasant.
Author blackmagik Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 Yeah I know how to do it. I just don't know if its completely necessary. I think that I would like to have it, but at the same time I just don't want to mess things up by trying to make it more complicated. On the other hand like you said she is probably just waiting for me to ask her haha.
tigressA Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 Next time you see her, just greet her by saying, "Hello, girlfriend" and kiss her. She'll get the message. If she asks you about it, say, "Yes, of course you're my girlfriend" and kiss her again. Case closed.
Eddie Edirol Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 Wait a lil longer, eventually her instincts will kick in and she will bust and bring up the talk. She is going with the flow with you, but really, if you are treating her like a gf, then she wont be able to help it eventually. Just hold on. You dont want to turn her off by bringing it up before her, especially if she has some reason for not bringing it up.
Author blackmagik Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 Wait a lil longer, eventually her instincts will kick in and she will bust and bring up the talk. She is going with the flow with you, but really, if you are treating her like a gf, then she wont be able to help it eventually. Just hold on. You dont want to turn her off by bringing it up before her, especially if she has some reason for not bringing it up. Yeah, I normally have a 3 month rule... I think I know what her tipping point might be. So I should wait until at least then if not a little longer. I have also never had to bring up the conversation in a relationship, which is one of the reasons I was really waiting. However I like this advice.
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