Cassandra92 Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 If you were in a relationship with somebody, and then that person had to move to a different place for work/study purposes and the relationship ended, how would you feel about them telling you they have hope about the two of you being together again in the future? Obviously in this scenario I am the person who left... He should know how much I miss him and love him. He was everything to me, there was just something else I had to pursue for a while, for the good of my own future. I know it was hard on him being left behind, our lives pretty much revolved around each other. But I still want to be with him! He is the only person I can picture myself with, and the fact that I had to go away for a while does not mean to me that we are not meant to be together. Unless I'm just being overly optimistic
citrusdrop1688 Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 There is a slight possibility that you guys could end up together, but in all likely hood its not going to happen. Without any sort of commitment to hold you together one of you will move on with someone else. Especially if its something long term or if there is a lot of distance that will be between you.
Beeotch Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 If you were in a relationship with somebody, and then that person had to move to a different place for work/study purposes and the relationship ended, how would you feel about them telling you they have hope about the two of you being together again in the future? Obviously in this scenario I am the person who left... He should know how much I miss him and love him. He was everything to me, there was just something else I had to pursue for a while, for the good of my own future. I know it was hard on him being left behind, our lives pretty much revolved around each other. But I still want to be with him! He is the only person I can picture myself with, and the fact that I had to go away for a while does not mean to me that we are not meant to be together. Unless I'm just being overly optimistic This is a difficult situation.... I would want to have a long distance relationship and actually shoot for that versus breaking up. In my opinion, we have so much communication technology now, such that if I am inlove with you and see you in my future I would definitely continue the relationship at a distance and stay in touch via Skype, IM, phone, text and visit when I can! I've done it before and would do it again. But all in all....I personally trust that things work out as they should and if something is meant to be, distance and time don't stop it. Maybe you take a hiatus for a while but if it is meant to be...you'll get another chance. If not, things will naturally work out that your feelings dissipate or you meet someone else etc.
Author Cassandra92 Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 This is a difficult situation.... I would want to have a long distance relationship and actually shoot for that versus breaking up. In my opinion, we have so much communication technology now, such that if I am inlove with you and see you in my future I would definitely continue the relationship at a distance and stay in touch via Skype, IM, phone, text and visit when I can! I've done it before and would do it again. But all in all....I personally trust that things work out as they should and if something is meant to be, distance and time don't stop it. Maybe you take a hiatus for a while but if it is meant to be...you'll get another chance. If not, things will naturally work out that your feelings dissipate or you meet someone else etc. I would have wanted to do long distance too. I told him that time and time again, I think anything is better than nothing at all. We could have talked every day, and I'm only an hour away by plane... I could have come back all the time! But he just didn't want to, he thought it would be too hard and if we had a fight (which we had been having a few of), we wouldn't be able to sort it out properly until we saw each other again. I do see his point, but I would STILL rather have tried. I thought he loved me more than that.
Lil1 Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 I don't know Cassandra92, I am of the opinion that if you truly love that person and you think they are meant for you then you should keep that love alive and do everything to be with the one you love. Life happens, and you can make opportunities for yourself anywhere really, especially if you are together. I dont believe in long distance relationships because one party usually falls for someone closer to them. Either make the commitment to be with the person you love or move one. Good luck to you!
depplover_1980 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Only the weak and misdirected 'fall' for people closer to home, though I appreciate there are cases where this does happen. If the relationship is one where you both grow and understand each other, then there is no reason it cannot work. Infact new found space can even improve a relationship, making it more special when you are together. He may well be sulking at the moment, give him a little time to come to you. Good luck with your personal progression, it is one of the best gifts you can give any relationship.
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