maryyyc Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 (edited) Hello everyone. I'm kinda new here and I'm also very young, I'm 18, but as the rest of you here...I also have already discovered love. It was some time ago, more specifically, 1 year and 2 months ago. I'm his first, and he's my first. All I know is that I love this boy, and I also know he loves me back. We are in love. But it isn't always butterflies and rainbows...we also have our disagreements. Today we were talking and he told me that now that we have been fighting less and less than before...he's starting to feel that "fire" from the beginning again, because he thinks that in those bad times it kinda got lost, that passion kinda disapeared...and I also feel the same, to be honest. But this feeling that it might disapear again, this feeling that he might get tired of me, of always being with the same girl...this feeling that time might change his feelings for me...this has been bugging me a lot. So, my questions are: From your experience, do you think that "fire" in the beginning of a relationship can last til de end? And what can I do to keep that "flame" alive? Thank you Edited March 10, 2011 by maryyyc
Sivok Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Haha, young love. The beginning of a relationship is called the honeymoon phase for a reason. Once it settles in you start taking each other for granted a bit. You always need to challenge each other, surprise each other, and keep each other on your toes. After the honeymoon phase, there are times where you have to force this spontanuity and intrigue because you become so comfortable. It's why after fights and breaks, couples are usually more passionately attached to each other - 'make up sex'. After a fight is a common time to remember what you truly have in each other, which is why that flame is currently back for you. Trust me, keeping that intrigue is well worth the effort.
Datura Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Stop worrying about the "mights" or "what ifs" and enjoy the time you're spending together right now. Things are always subject to change, but getting caught up in what may or may not lie down the road is going to spoil the present.
Kamille Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Today we were talking and he told me that now that we have been fighting less and less than before...he's starting to feel that "fire" from the beginning again. :bunny: Isn't that the best feeling? BF and I have been together for over 18 months and I've never been more madly in love with him than I am now. It has a lot to do with the fact that we've been through rough patches, but through it all we never lost sight of each other. Now things are way easier between us and the "fire" is back and burning stronger than before. I'm older so I have the opposite reaction as you. In the past, yes, perhaps I would have worried. But today, the fact that we can still feel this strongly about each other now gives me faith that we already know how to keep the flame alive. We make time for each other, we make time for the things that make us feel close and intimate.
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