confused4life Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 I'm having a hard time with an old "friend" of mine and not sure what to do. We have know each other for about 7 years, dated for a little bit at the start. For the last 5 years, I have ended up in the "friend" zone with her and know that will never change. In fact I dont want her but I have so many mix emotions I feel numb when I think of her. I dont know what to think. I wish her the best and dont even find her really actractive anymore. My issue is: We have mutal friends and I know she misses our "friendship" but nothing else. She talks negitive about who she is dating and tries to get the attention like we were dating but doesn't want anything more. Please correct me if I wrong but you cant have both? Right? I feel bad bc I wish her the best but when we hang out at a mutal friends house, I have too many mixed emotions. I also feel bad because I dont feel like I'm really her friend but we have a little history and I still care for her. We are too simular to make it work, somthing will always be missing. I dont want to but tempeted to ask my friends to let me know when she is going to be around, so I can remove myself. Also, I want to but dont want to just leave when she is around. Also, the last 3-4 times we have gone camping in a large group, within 3 hours or so, I'm passed out drunk. I'm in my tent and dont remember a thing drunk. I dont want to be so childish but I thought I have moved on but keep having hard times dealing with it. For sakes it been a few.. years. The last thing I want to ask for with my real friends is to choose between the two of us. I feel like I'm three years old asking this. I want to be her friend but unsure if I can make it "work" on my end. Any help or comments would be appricated. Thank you, Confused4life
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