willpower Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 I think I may stop visiting the forums for a while (famous last words) as I feel I'm coming out the other side of this and coming here possibly makes me remind myself of the hurt I've been through in the last 5 months. I have had a great week and have noticed my mindset has shifted a great distance. I have now created a list of positive affirmations that I run over and over in my head - I'm replacing thoughts of her with these affirmations. I've been listening to a Tune by a chap called "Dan le sac" called get better. Its a tune about the breakdown of society and how we should each try to get a little bit better than we are. So its become my main affirmation "Get Better", I've created other affirmations such as "I am on the whole a good,moral person" and more things. Not really Ego feeding just positive things about myself and positive attitudes towards where I want to go. Now I extend this into daily life, if I see someone smiling I make a mental note of that being awesome and in turn it cheers me up. In short look at positives out there, get some affirmations in your head and when in doubt just repeat them over and over. This is not a magic cure and I think you need to have let everything out to get the most out of this but replacing thoughts of her with positive things has lead me to start to not think about her. Its also lead me to genuinely start taking an interest in other people. A major step towards recovery. On one final note I remember writing in my diary a month after we broke "your never going to meet another girl like 'the wicked witch' how do you live with that". Get that BS out of your head if your thinking like this. Replace it with positive. I'll probably be checking in and out of here from time to time and want to come back when I classify myself as fully over this and write the whole thing up for new people just starting the process. Who knows how long that will take but until then stay strong and keep yourself pointing in the right direction, if your steering in the right way the tide will come and carry you along eventually. Willpower
Layzie89 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Willpower, you should look into the book called 'The Secret' I believe it's all about this positive affirmation you're speaking of. If you're not much a reader, they have a documentary on it as well. True story: After watching The Secret..I did what it told me to do. At the time I really wanted to hook up with this girl..mind you I wasn't even friends with this girl at the time. I knew of her through a friend. Fast forward one month down the line, we became friends...doing what the Secret told me to do every day, every night. One night at a get together..it happened. I was hooking up with the girl, and all I could think while doing so was 'No way....it ****ign worked?!?!' Haha, best of luck to you man. Be sure to stop in time to time.
Author willpower Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 Willpower, you should look into the book called 'The Secret' I believe it's all about this positive affirmation you're speaking of. If you're not much a reader, they have a documentary on it as well. True story: After watching The Secret..I did what it told me to do. At the time I really wanted to hook up with this girl..mind you I wasn't even friends with this girl at the time. I knew of her through a friend. Fast forward one month down the line, we became friends...doing what the Secret told me to do every day, every night. One night at a get together..it happened. I was hooking up with the girl, and all I could think while doing so was 'No way....it ****ign worked?!?!' Haha, best of luck to you man. Be sure to stop in time to time. Just ordered it up, have read quite a lot of these typre of books in my time, and although I'm a skeptic about anything thats sold on the back of 'get rich' or 'get anything you want' I have first hand experience of how using their principles can work. As always I think the mindset you need to adopt is that the book will not get you where you want, only you can do that, but if you are able to embrace the principles and are brave enough to apply them to the maximum of your potential then you can achieve great things I can recommend a book called 'mastery' by George leonard if you are looking for something along similar lines. Many thanks for the recommendation. WP
SunsetRed Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 EXCELLENT POST!! I'm trying to do the same thing. I am doing affirmations and I know it would be healthy for me to pull away from these forums. I dont watch TV, so the 'net is my form of entertainment. Still, I need to stay away from facebook and these forums if I'm ever going to heal. All of the advice I've gotten on here has been amazing. But, I am at the place where you are, in that these forums are reminding me of hurt and are keeping me stuck. I'm doing affirmations as well. I've seen a noticeable difference already. People are actually commenting on how happy I look and I've caught men making eye contact with me and smiling. My affirmations are designed specifically to counter act specific negative thoughts. For example, I keep thinking that I "ruined my last chance at love and that I lost my ex because of my inadequacies" Thinking that I had been the ruin of my relationship was making me physically ill. I tehn replaced that thought with.."Thank you God/Universe for giving me xxx, to teach me how to love and how to be loved" I also tell myself "my life is richly blessed with abundance" I write my affirmations down as well, as it seems to stick in my head/being better that way. Good luck to you OP. I'm going to try and follow your example and get of this board and out into the real world!
selena_cat Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Willpower, you should look into the book called 'The Secret' I believe it's all about this positive affirmation you're speaking of. If you're not much a reader, they have a documentary on it as well. True story: After watching The Secret..I did what it told me to do. At the time I really wanted to hook up with this girl..mind you I wasn't even friends with this girl at the time. I knew of her through a friend. Fast forward one month down the line, we became friends...doing what the Secret told me to do every day, every night. One night at a get together..it happened. I was hooking up with the girl, and all I could think while doing so was 'No way....it ****ign worked?!?!' Haha, best of luck to you man. Be sure to stop in time to time. Funny I read the secret and the sequal,The Power,I prefer the first one and The Law of attraction, somehow I cant get the point straight though of always thinking positive but it doesnt hurt. what did you do exactly to gain your dreamgirl,dont know if it will repair a so broken relationship of mine that caused me to come to LS in the first place.
depplover_1980 Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 I do it sometimes Willpower, I'm usually logging back on within a week or 2. Good luck. x
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