emally Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 The backgroud: I am in a new relationship and I am the happiest I have ever been. We have been together for about 5 months. We were both in serious relationships before we were official. I was with a guy for 3 1/2 years, and he was in one for 3 years. We were both single many months before dating. My ex is dating another girl who is now pregnant by him. We have school together and talk on a regular basis. We do not have problems with each other, simple because there is no reason for any. His ex, however, absolutely despises me. I honestly did not do anything to this girl. One time at school, I talked to one of her friends (who is also a friend of mine) and she had a complete come apart. We used to be somewhat friends. I mean, we never hung out, but we talked if we walked by each other. I have confronted his ex about the situation and tried to resolve things because I am not the type of person to have drama, especially for no reason. And ESPECIALLY not over boys! She did not drop it. The present: I am desperately in need of a job. I live in a small town where there are not many job opportunities. There is a restaurant down the road from me, though. The girls that work there come out with so much money in tips. I tried to avoid applying for this job best I could, but I had to do it. Times are tough! I have many girl friends that work here and they all suggested I should apply. Only problem? My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend works there, as well. So this is what happened. This ex-girl's friend texts me on a regular basis. She is the one who told me this story. I put in an application to this restaurant on Monday. I called them to check on it on Wednesday. I talked to the hiring manager and she seemed to like me. Well, the hiring manager asked my bf's ex and the ex's friend about me. ex's friend: "She is a sweet girl. She'd be a good worker.. blah blah" bf's ex: "If you hire her, it will be bad. I can't be around her, wah wah." Oh great! The friend then tells me that she blew the chances of me getting a job there. Verdict. I do not know what to do! My options are: 1: Ask the ex to come meet and talk to me. Explain to her that I really need the job. 2. Talk to the manager about the situation and reassure her that there will be no drama. I don't know what else to do. Please HELP ME!!??
race_engine Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 whatever you do, don't dare think about talking to your bf's ex, she sounds like a bitch and for sure will only lie to you or deceive you into thinking you're her friend or whatever. i'm not saying be mean to her if she approaches you, but don't seek her out. go directly in and talk to the manager again to show the manager you really want the job. i wouldn't even bring up the whole thing about you two having drama between you, because if the manager sees that, he/she will think that you're just as bitter towards the girl as she is towards you and the other girl will have won. just go in and talk to the manager in a "strictly business" fashion, say nothing about any of the other girls unless the manager asks you. THEN if the manager asks you about your relationship with this girl, you can go ahead and say that she's your current bf's ex and that you don't think she likes you too much but that you are perfectly fine with her and have no desire to start drama, you just want to work. be brief, don't go into too much detail about the problems you have with that bitch. usually the number one thing you can do to impress any manager when you really want the job is to ACT like you really want it (ie: continue to go in every once in a while to check on the status of your application, tell them you can work pretty flexible hours, etc) all the things managers love to hear. how do i know this? because i am a master at getting any job i want hahaha. i've had 17 interviews in my life and of those 17 interviews only 2 i didn't get jobs out of and that's only because i wasn't qualified enough, not because of how i spoke. remember the main thing bosses look for when they hire someone is your appearance, how you present yourself, and a very strong work ethic.
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