sweetblubrry Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 (edited) Long story short... 8 months ago both guys liked me at the same time. They both asked me out the same week. Ex asked first for wednesday and other guy planned on Tuesday date for the weekend a day before the first date wtih my ex. Things went well with ex, we dated for 8 months and the other guy remained a friend to both of us. 8 months forward, ex breaks up wiht me because he's lost and confused and doesn't know what he wants. Has too many issues to deal with like self-esteem, trust, and who knows what else. Didn't want to drag me down... felt like he didn't deserve me, etc. Doesn't talk to me besides when we see each other at work. Was very flirty with me at work last time (saw him two weeks ago) and not a word since then. Have no clue what's going on. Now the friend... he has asked me out 3 times now. The first was 3 weeks after we broke up, then maybe another 2 weeks later, and now a few days ago again. He keeps asking me how I'm doing, and I'll say oh I'm just working, blah blah blah. Then he asks again how is everything else. Like he's checking to see if I'm over my ex. Because I originally was confiding in him about my ex since they are friends. Not interested in the friend. BTW we all work together.... so this makes for an even more complicated situation. I don't think ex knows friend is asking me out. I want my ex back... the friend is still a friend and I feel bad saying no to hanging out... but i have a feeling he has more in mind. Plus people we work with are going to spread gossip because that is what they do and the word will get to my ex (even if it is nothing) WHAT DO I DO BEFORE I GO CRAZY!!? I don't want to pull any jealousy crap like pretend to date the friend to make my ex jealous. I sincerely want my ex back... what is my best course of action!?! Edited March 10, 2011 by sweetblubrry
Chi townD Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 I would just keep doing what you are doing. I would keep avoiding the other friends advances. Dating him would end not only any chance of getting back with the Ex, but destory their friendship. That's a hassle you don't want.
Author sweetblubrry Posted March 12, 2011 Author Posted March 12, 2011 Thanks, what is what I think. However some people say you should make it a mystery to make the ex jealous. But I just don't think I am capable of going down that road. I keep making up excuses for why I can't hang out with the friend, hopefully he will get the hint or I'll have to tell him. I am just avoiding them both for now.
WorldIsYours Posted March 12, 2011 Posted March 12, 2011 Well his friend is a jerk for even trying to mess with his friend's ex. That is a big NO-NO, regardless if your his ex or not. Real mature friends don't do that. Tell him to #### off.
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