loveforever Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Ex-husband and I are still living together with our 2 children.... After divorce was finalized he said he loves me and he wants to see what the future holds and doesn't want me to move out... Since I still love him terribly and want nothing more to have him back I stayed..... Anyway....I unintentionally interrupted a phone call with his brother on Saturday and he blew up on me.... I apologized (one too many times) and he seems ok with me now.... I've decided though that I'm using the advice of the 180 and the "Bitch Bible" now...... My question now is though....what do I say to him if he wants sex ???? No thanks ??? You don't want me so you can't have me ???? What do I say to not push him away for good, but to make him think..... Any advice ???
Shqipo Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 He's' rejecting you and you have to figure out a way how to accept rejection nicely so he doesn't reject you even more? Kinda funny when you think about it from an outsiders perspective lol but of course when youre in the situtation...you always wonder what the right thing to say/do is...you are divorced. Create your boundaries and stick to them. Make him see the difference between divorce and being with you. Simply put..say No, you are no longer married. That is a privilege for your husband (or whatever reason you have..someone fully committed to you yadda yadda)
Author loveforever Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 I get that...but what if he asks why ????
Author loveforever Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 You don't have to explain anything to him. And if he's too thick to realize it's because you're broken up, well...then that's his problem. I guess you're right....I shouldn't have to explain anything.... And either way it will coincide with my "Bitch Book".... Thanks.....
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