ech Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Got the news that I have herpes today. Been with my bf for 2 years. I have never cheated on him, nor do I think he has cheated on me. I asked the doctor, and she told me I could have gotten it years ago and it is just now showing up. My question is, how do I tell my bf? He just recently asked me to move in with him. And things are going SO great, I am so scared this is going to ruin it all. I don't know how he will react, and if he does "accept" it, will he ever treat me the same? Help:(
Titania22 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Got the news that I have herpes today. Been with my bf for 2 years. I have never cheated on him, nor do I think he has cheated on me. I asked the doctor, and she told me I could have gotten it years ago and it is just now showing up. My question is, how do I tell my bf? He just recently asked me to move in with him. And things are going SO great, I am so scared this is going to ruin it all. I don't know how he will react, and if he does "accept" it, will he ever treat me the same? Help:( Get a second opinion. Doctors get it wrong sometimes.
Fondue Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 I definitely thing you should tell. It would be unethical and irresponsible of you if you didn't. Besides, think of it this way: If he was in the same situation as you, would you want him to just never tell you, or be honest with you?
Author ech Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 Im pretty sure I dont need a second opinion:) And yes, I would want him to tell me for sure, I am just so scared he is going to leave me.
Sabali Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Im pretty sure I dont need a second opinion:) And yes, I would want him to tell me for sure, I am just so scared he is going to leave me. Ask your doctor if he is willing to discuss this with your boyfriend present during an office meeting. Schedule an office meeting with your physician and bring your boyfriend along so that he can be educated right there. The doctor can attest to the fact that you could have contracted herpes years ago and not have known it and that you were just diagnosed with it. He can also help to alleviate fears and possibly be tested right there. Just because you have it, it does not necessarily mean that your boyfriend has it as well.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Sorry, hon, but I can tell you having herpes is not the end of the world. The only thing you can do is educate yourself on the topic and make sure you don't pass it on to anyone else. As for your boyfriend, you have to tell him and ask him to get tested. If this relationship is to survive, honesty is always the best honesty. Now in all retrospect, your boyfriend has a tough decision from here on out. If he can overlook this problem, the best thing you guys can do is practice safe sex. However, there is still the prospect that he can't handle the truth and out of fear break up with you. The only thing I can ask is that you remain strong throughout this ordeal. If anything, there is another member on here with Herpes who might be able to give you valuable information and advice. Please look up and contact Pandagirl.
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