lcfc1993 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Already made a thread a couple of weeks ago about my ex who dumped me after 13 months. But now, tonight, I find out shes been flirting with an ex friend of mine, who she was talking/flirting with while we were in a relationship. She was chatting to him about 6 months ago but stopped talking to him after he told her he wanted to be with her. We've been split up 4 weeks today, but I really don't know what to do now. Was she lying when she told me she didn't feel anything for this lad? I still get the impression shes trying to make me jealous, because she deliberately flirts and chats up these 2 guys on social networking sites such as Facebook or BB Messenger, so everybody can see. And these 2 lads are the ones she flirted with/chatted to while we were together, so I really don't like them. And she still continually says to my girl mate, "he needs to move on like I have etc." Is she still showing her love for me through hatred and aggression? When we were together she was violent, aggressive and controlling. I know I'm better off without her, I just miss her so much and the thought of her with an ex friend is just horrible.
stop_the_lies Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Just block her. Then she won't say you need to move on anymore. You'll see loads less of stuff aimed at you too, or thoughtless things.. Waste of time using eye power to read it!
Author lcfc1993 Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 Just block her. Then she won't say you need to move on anymore. You'll see loads less of stuff aimed at you too, or thoughtless things.. Waste of time using eye power to read it! I have mate. But because I go college with her and everybody kind of knows everybody, word gets around. I still think she does it on purpose. When my girl mate said to her "Don't you think its harsh and wrong that your deliberately flirting with his friends in front of everyone?" She never replied, for the first time this whole evening. Its like she knows what she is doing is wrong.
stop_the_lies Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 You need to tell them "I don't really care" so they stop telling you things. Just completely erase her from your day to day stuff. Any comments trickling back will just spin the whirlpool a bit faster! Jump out If she's doing it on purpose, she won't stop. So you have to counter your reaction to it. It should be indifferent and you can make yourself feel it by getting rid of all the reminders of her. Everything, or as much as you can. I have a kid with my ex and its very hard but I only ever talk about him. Nothing else. Nothing!
Author lcfc1993 Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 I've told them not to mention anything else about her. Its just so weird. She hurt me so much by dumping me, and I begged for her back to which I was rejected. Now I actually feel like I'm moving on and she deliberately puts stuff over FB but doesn't remove my friends off it. I removed all of hers because I didn't want to see pictures of her having a good time or things like that, I just don't want to know. Does she just not want me to move on? Does she want me as a dog, who will go running back to her?
Layzie89 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Deactivate your facebook like me. FB is poison post-breakup. No matter what you're always going to feel inclined to investigate even if it's only looking at her profile picture. I was doing this so often it became routine. I finally came to the decision that it was unhealthy and deactivated my FB completely. Afterwards, I realized how much it has been slowing down my healing and was relieved. Even if your not snooping, you're bound to see her pop up on friends walls and such...so just go all out and get rid of the damn thing all together. You'll also find that your real friends still manage to stay in touch even without you having a facebook. Try it out, helped me.
Author lcfc1993 Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 For me its all I have for quite a few of my old friends that have left my secondary school. I have her blocked on FB and all her little group of friends as well. So I can't see what shes doing. I've had her blocked for a good 2-3 weeks now and will not remove her because whats the point? There isn't one. I just want her to stop blatantly trying to get at me through flirting with my old friends. Shes hurt me enough, why can't she just leave me alone? She was violent, controlling, aggressive and blames all her problems on me. Hell, shes even said if I reply to her texts shes going to the police about sexual harassment, even though shes texting me! But even after all of this I still miss her and love her. Although I have come a long long way in these 4 weeks that I've been single. The only thing that gets to me is the thought of her moving on, especially with one of my friends/ex friends.
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