tincanman99 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Remember the other day I was talking about fading out on this woman who has been flirting nonstop with me. Well she faded out on me! The other day this week when I saw her she basically ignored me while she was playing with her phone, and she did it again today. It was pretty rude and today I said to her jokingly - I will leave you alone, I got the message. She didnt even acknowledge it nor respond. Prior to this when I saw her Thursday last week she was very friendly towards me, showing me pictures of her dog and what not. I had a bad feeling last week and the week before when she was chatting me up like crazy. Coming and sitting near me on the floor while I was stretching, telling where she is going to dinner, how she had so much fun on the weekend, telling me where she lived and on and on. It was like a brain dump. How do you go from being hyper friendly to barely talking to me over the space of a weekend? I dont get it. I will say hi and just go about my business and not make any attempt to speak to her. Cant say I didnt deserve it for what I was thinking but eh, its a lesson learned...
fishtaco Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 That's why I was surprised to so many people's reaction of how "evil" it is to fade out. Nothing noteworthy happened between you two, I don't see what the big deal is. She is being lame that she would go to the rude side of things. But fading out is about as common as it gets. Good thing you didn't try to give her the "let's be friends" speech like many people had suggested. That would have ended in a very unnecessarily unpleasant way. I've had this happen to me before. I just shrug and behave exactly how they would behave toward me. If they say hi, I'll say hi. If they pretend I don't exist, I'll pretend they don't exist.
lenny Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 How do you go from being hyper friendly to barely talking to me over the space of a weekend? This really is ironic. Now I never suggested a being friends talk but rather than the cold shoulder you are getting would you have preferred a have a good life conversation. Are you left wondering if maybe she's just PMSing and next week she'll be back at it?
Author tincanman99 Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 That's why I was surprised to so many people's reaction of how "evil" it is to fade out. Nothing noteworthy happened between you two, I don't see what the big deal is. She is being lame that she would go to the rude side of things. But fading out is about as common as it gets. Good thing you didn't try to give her the "let's be friends" speech like many people had suggested. That would have ended in a very unnecessarily unpleasant way. I've had this happen to me before. I just shrug and behave exactly how they would behave toward me. If they say hi, I'll say hi. If they pretend I don't exist, I'll pretend they don't exist. This is going to sound harsh but did she start flirting me to see if she could get me? Stroke her ego? Keep another guy in the wings? Than on top of this she mentioned her "friend" several times. Was the friend another guy she was seeing and she was trying to double down? I was leary when she started being hyper friendly as women are almost never like this. So you go from being my new best friend to not speaking to me? Keep in mind that I was having my doubts the other day but this was after the last time I saw her. In the end it doesnt matter. If you dont want to talk to me now, than dont. Its fine with me.
Author tincanman99 Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 This really is ironic. Now I never suggested a being friends talk but rather than the cold shoulder you are getting would you have preferred a have a good life conversation. Are you left wondering if maybe she's just PMSing and next week she'll be back at it? Who knows but from my experience people that behave like this going from one extreme to the other usually have issues. Lots of them.
AverageJoe Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 It was pretty rude and today I said to her jokingly - I will leave you alone, I got the message. She didnt even acknowledge it nor respond. Rude...how is that? Because she didn't speak to you? Maybe I am not understanding you correctly but she isn't obligated to speak to anyone, including you. You either stop pussy-footing around and ask this girl out, or at very least get her number. Man up. Don't blame her because you haven't taken any action.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Rude...how is that? Because she didn't speak to you? Maybe I am not understanding you correctly but she isn't obligated to speak to anyone, including you. You either stop pussy-footing around and ask this girl out, or at very least get her number. Man up. Don't blame her because you haven't taken any action. I'm not obligated to be nice to elderly people, but it would be rude of me if I wasn't. I think he's saying it's rude because she was completely friendly to him and then out of nowhere pretends like he doesn't exist. I personally wouldn't care, but maybe he finds it rude.
AverageJoe Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 I'm not obligated to be nice to elderly people, but it would be rude of me if I wasn't. I think he's saying it's rude because she was completely friendly to him and then out of nowhere pretends like he doesn't exist. I personally wouldn't care, but maybe he finds it rude. Rude of you, or him, according to who?
xpaperxcutx Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 I'm not obligated to be nice to elderly people, but it would be rude of me if I wasn't. I think he's saying it's rude because she was completely friendly to him and then out of nowhere pretends like he doesn't exist. I personally wouldn't care, but maybe he finds it rude. Well it's not rude if he had " intentions" to do the same thing to her. It's just he's getting a taste of his own medicine before he could distribute his own prescription. Tincan, looks like the girl took the first step. Is this an ego thing? Yes, for the both of you.
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Well it's not rude if he had " intentions" to do the same thing to her. It's just he's getting a taste of his own medicine before he could distribute his own prescription. Tincan, looks like the girl took the first step. Is this an ego thing? Yes, for the both of you. Granted. That's why I said I personally would not find it rude. I don't think Tincan felt like she was rude because she was obligated to speak with him, more that he felt it was rude that she dropped him like an old hat. That's what I was getting at. Whether we think he was justified in feeling this way is immaterial.
Author tincanman99 Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 I was thinking about it but she beat me to it . But I guess thats the way it goes....
fishtaco Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 I read it as if I say hi to someone, be a man or a woman, and they just ignore me, that's kind of rude. Nothing to do with dating or whatever. As for the fading out, nothing happened between them. I still don't understand what the big deal is. Whether she faded or he faded, who cares? There was nothing there.
spackle Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 hang on you thought it was fine to do it to her or is your memory that bad?
fishtaco Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 hang on you thought it was fine to do it to her or is your memory that bad? You talking to me? Because if you are, you may want to re-read my post.
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