Egychick Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 I just met this absolutely gorgeous guy online. He is definitely a 10/10. He is a bit quiet, at least up until now. He is always talking about sex and what he would like to do to me. We have talked some about other things. I try to steer the convo towards other subjects as well. We've only been talking for a week. If it was anyone else, I would have blocked him. But this guy is gorgeous. (j.k....being naughty!) Not to sound empty, but other than that, I do want him to respect me. And since then, I have tried to ask him questions to learn more about him. And tell him about who I am. I told him, I'm not someone who sleeps around, and I need to be in a long term serious relationship to even consider sleeping with him. His looks are not enough, but I want to know if he is using me for sex or what his deal is. I've never slept with him, and we never met in person yet, but I saw him on cam. I asked if he was willing to wait for me, and be in a serious relationship, he said yes. And even he told me, today, that he didn't want to go on the cam, cause he would be acting too "naughty" so he wanted to wait till tomorrow. I told him, I am sure he could get any woman he wants...he is just that fine...and sure many are running after him. But he said, he is not looking for that, he is looking for the right girl...someone who is smart, mature, and cute. What do you think this guy wants? Does he seem like he is ok? Or just overly horny? What do you think?
Lilmisus Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Honestly, it sounds like sex is the only thing on his mind, therefore, most likely what he's looking for from you. If it wasn't, then sex wouldn't have already been brought up in the week that you have been talking and your main conversation topic. You can try meeting him in person, but don't be surprised if he tries to make moves on the first or second date, and is willing to walk away after a few weeks/months without getting any from you.
Author Egychick Posted March 9, 2011 Author Posted March 9, 2011 What I don't understand is...if he is that gorgeous...he could get it from any girl he wants. Why me? Just looking at him, someone women would run after him. There are girls like that. So why would he bother talking to me, if he could get it from anyone?
SmileFace Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Who doesn't like a chase? Having "things" handed to you all the time makes life less exciting.
somedude81 Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 What I don't understand is...if he is that gorgeous...he could get it from any girl he wants. Why me? Just looking at him, someone women would run after him. There are girls like that. So why would he bother talking to me, if he could get it from anyone? What makes you think it's just you? And yes he just wants sex. Please do yourself a favor and don't sleep with him hoping that you can change him and get a relationship out of it.
MarlyStar Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 My ex was very, very handsome. Think of a tanned blond Tom Selleck with brown eyes. And he was charming and very competent and smart. He told me I was his 46th woman and while we were together, he actually was faithful to me, something I gather he'd never been before. But...the handsome didn't matter after a while. It's not enough to make up for the self absorption, selfishness, and passive aggressiveness. Handsome just does not much matter in the long run. If he's talking about sex 90% of the time, he's thinking about sex 90% of the time, not long term relationship. If he really wanted a long term serious relationship, he'd be talking about that 90% of the time. "... I want to know if he is using me for sex or what his deal is..." Men who are using you for sex almost NEVER tell you they are using you for sex or what the real deal is. "...I am sure he could get any woman he wants...he is just that fine...and sure many are running after him. But he said, he is not looking for that, he is looking for the right girl...someone who is smart, mature, and cute..." If he's not looking for women who run after him, what is he doing online looking for women who are attracted to his looks and sex talk? If he's looking for a girl who's smart, mature and cut, why is he talking 'naughty' and about sex? He wants sex, and is dangling a 'relationship' to get it.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 What I don't understand is...if he is that gorgeous...he could get it from any girl he wants. Why me? Just looking at him, someone women would run after him. There are girls like that. So why would he bother talking to me, if he could get it from anyone? He is probably working on a dozen other women on chat, too, and might have already succeeded with half of them. If he wanted to be in a relationship with you, he would have asked you out on a date by now. Look, if you want to have fun and sex only with a hot guy, go for it. Nothing wrong with that. But if you don't want to have sex unless you're in a relationship, don't waste your time with him. Just turn on that cam and enjoy the show.
Author Egychick Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 @RubySlippers, haha you're funny! He did ask me out on a date...we will meet soon. But still in the back of my mind, will it really make a difference, if all he wants is sex? It's annoying!!
Ruby Slippers Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 You can rest assured that he wants to have sex, as soon as possible -- like most guys. But you get to set whatever pace works for you.
oaks Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 You can rest assured that he wants to have sex, as soon as possible -- like most guys. That's probably true, and the guys who don't want sex get made fun of like Tiger20 on this board. [[we can't win! ]] Anyway, Egychick, if he's talking about sex 90% of the time tell him to tone it down and don't be with him anywhere other than in a public place the first few times you meet him. If he can't find other things to talk about then you'll have your answer, and if he can then you'll be able to figure out if there's some relationship potential hiding under there somewhere.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Yes it is all about sex or he is sexual addict looking for a relationship with a girl who would have to understand that. That's how H and I started out, him lettinge know about his sky-high sex drive and then both of us trying to have a relationship. Doesn't work, try again!
xpaperxcutx Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Any guy who talks about sex so early on is fishing for a girl who is easy and willing. Are you?
daphne Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Ok. I did a doubletake because I think you may not be yanking our chains. Please read the title of your thread. Yes, he is only interested in sex with you. If you have to ask the question, then you already know the answer but maybe looking for someone else to validate the idea of giving him the benefit of the doubt. The reason you want to give it to him is that you are hoping he'll change and want waht you want. He doesn't. I can guarantee you.
musemaj11 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Ugh, a lot of women (girls?) are so dumb. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, looks like a duck, it must be a duck ...
dreamingoftigers Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 Ugh, a lot of [people] are so [naive]. If it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck, looks like a duck, it must be a duck ... There, I fixed it for you.
sniffys Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 egychick he probably may not want you ONLY for sex, but he is definitely WAY too horny. i mean at some point, you would catch yourself if you talk too much of the same thing. like for example, bacon, that guy next door or your new ipad. he obviously does not get it..sex is fun to talk about. hell, we can all be naughty. but to talk about it way too much and all the time can get pretty boring. there is no good sex w/o a level of intimacy. nothing can compare with that. actually i am talking from experience too. met a guy online before and hes handsome, smart and really nice. problem is he talks about sex all the time. its like almost 99 percent of our conversation is about sex. at first it was fun, but when you notice its almost all you talk about it gets pretty boring fast. especially when he says stuff that i am not really into, and i am not that impolite to interrupt him.
Author Egychick Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 Ya I agree that you are all right. It would be refreshing if he was one of those guys that surprises and ends up being a lot deeper than that. I'm not going to hold my breath. He likes to say, romantic things to like how he wishes he was beside me, and how he wants to hold my waist and walk a long the beach with me...he loves the beach. This all sounds lovely and right out of a romance novel...but when he starts talking about stuff that leads to the bed room...he loses me. Maybe all this romance talk...is a means to an end. Telling me what he thinks I like to hear. He can be romantic..but show me you have other thoughts in your mind too...intelligence is also a turn on....
betterdeal Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 He wants sex. If you want sex with him, have sex with him. Enjoy it. If not, don't. A long term relationship generally needs more than sex, but you can get a good 3 months of great sex out of him, if you and he have matching sexual styles. It's pretty obvious that he wants to bone you and you'd like it too. As for some form of spiritual, personal connection, you haven't said anything about him that interests you other than his physical appearance.
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