Found out i may have been dumped because of her friend, pretty long story!

[turokturok5]

Sorry, its a pretty long scenario. Lets call my Ex = X, her old best friend Y and her new best friend Z, it may make it a bit less confusing?

 

Ok well, X dumped me after a 2 month relationship. I never treated her badly, was always there for her, always showed her respected and never did anything to upset her. Now we we're meant to be having a group gathering, but Z decided she didn't want to see the guys anymore and declared a girls night, without informing the guys. X was okay with this, Y disliked it but was shortly silenced. The guys were waiting for 30 minutes and heard nothing, when they rang the girls they were told to have a guys night and to pretty much bugger off and stop annoying them. My mate rang his girlfriend, Y and made her cry 3 times. I rang X, i got a little angry, told her i wanted to see her, told her it was unfair that she just changed the plans without letting me know, she just said get over it and have a guys night, so i hung up.

 

We argued about it the next day, she went to Y and Z for advice. Z is a large, loud, abnoxious woman who has no relationship experience at all, the only experience she has was heartbreak, where she liked a guy and asked him out, he turned her down for another girl, so i believe this made her bitter? Y having a few boyfriends before and reconciling with my mate on a few occasions after abusing the hell out of eachother and breaking up said

"it's your first problem, all relationships have problems, they aren't perfect and you should just go along with it, the incident wasn't even that bad, he hardly got angry at all and sincerly apologized for getting angry, my boyfriend made me cry 3 times."

Z, having mentioned her relationship experience before said

"your not meant to be, you guys are obviously too different, if he was the one you wouldn't be aruging and having this issue" she decided to take the advice of Z.

 

I went to see Z after X broke up with me, i sought comfort and answers. She pretty much delivered the exact same break-up speech as X did, i found this kind of fishy. I talked to my mates, one of whom had dated a girl which was ruined because of Z always changing plans and seperating him from his girlfriend, then we asked Y and she didn't believe it was truly her fault.

Y told me i was actually dumped for being too clingy, but this made no sense at all to her because i didn't come across as clingy and her boyfriend seemed a lot more clingy than i was.

 

Y told me today that X has been hanging around Z a lot more and that its upsetting. X and Y use to be great friends, now she does whatever and believes whatever Z says, she is the victim of a control freak. She also mentioned that Z said to X before she dumped me - "i hate it when guys are so clingy" exept how the hell does she know what its like when a guy is clingy when she has never been touched by another man in her life?

 

Like i mentioned before, we're apart of a group. Z and X both re-assured me that our "group" would be fine and that the break-up would have no effect on it, did i care about this? no. According to Y they are both obsessed with "group" and "girl" loyalty and that relationships will tear them apart. Y's boyfriend belives that Z was trying to get them to break up too, but Y had been dating him for a long time (nearly 8 months) and didn't let him go over something so simple. X let me go as we had only been dating 2 months and let herself be corrupted. Y has pretty much confessed everything and by what she had/has seen/heard she truly believes that Z had a big impact on the end of my relationship. I mean, Z knew me and X hit a pretty rough patch as i got drunk with my mates and sent X a few texts saying stuff like "why aren't you talking to me!" and things like that on australia day, i felt horrible the next day and apologized with flowers, she forgave me, but there was still a bit of tension. Z changes the plans so we're unable to see eachother, X, being so loyal to the girls goes along with it.

 

Sorry, its pretty much a novel, but do you think its true, did she really have an impact on my break-up? I mean, now that me and X are broken up, Z is always wanting to do things with me (go clubbing, go to uni parties etc etc) its all just a bit too weird. X is now best friends with Z, Y confessed what she knew and agrees that Z is a control freak who didn't want there to be relationships in the group, as she jealous because there was 6 people, 3 guys, 3 girls, 2 couples and the other guy had no interest in Z what so ever.

[Andy_K]

If it's true, will it change your life? Will you be able to undo what's been done and make amends?

 

No.

 

Sometimes we just have to accept things the way they are. Bad things happen. I suggest you let go of this and move on with your life. We can't always have peace of mind, and as frustrating as that is, it's important to be able to handle it.

[Woggle]

In the long run you are better off without a woman who lets her manhating friends control her life.