Lost Dino Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Hi there. (Sorry If my expression is not so correct because I am not native English speaker) I am 35 Japanese woman who lives in Tokyo. I had relationships with an European for approx six years. Even we were long distance relationship, meeting often and knew respective family member too.We surely loved each other. However Last two year I became unsatisfied with him because he said he dislikes system of his country's marriage system. But I've somehow respected his concept coz I simply didn't want to lose him. In the situation, about one year ago from now, he went to third country on business, and he was dazzled one local woman and he said she wants to marry him.He also told me he became interested in her and consider to marry... In short I was dumped. It happened just two month ago. Of course I cried and told him 'I could not accept it' at time with this enormous impact, but I somehow have been trying to forget him by going with friend, joining party, starting new hobbies, brushing skills of job.etc. Even though I try these things, I am still sometimes weep bitterly when I taking bath or just waking up in the morning. Please tell me everyone, I have no idea why I cry so much, what is the better way to recover and suffer. How many days I could move on. Moreover, in case he broke up with the girl, I'm not intend to try returning to him. I know it well, but I am feeling tough. What should I do.. Thanks reading!
Good Arms Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 I'm really sorry for you. It must be tough when he left for someone else... but that reflects more on HIM than it does of you. I'm sure you're deserving of someone better, and in time hopefully you'll find them. Don't worry that you're crying all the time. It's only been 2 months - that's no time! Waking up in the morning I find is the hardest thing (and I'm 3 months on from being dumped from what was only a 2-3 month relationship - not 6 years!). You're doing the right thing with new hobbies etc, but there's no quick fix to this pain and the tears... it's a gradual process.
sunsh1n3 Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 i feel your pain!!! i just found out that my boyfriend cheated on me today and i havent stopped crying! its the only way i can let out my hurt! if you need to cry then just cry, you will feel better over time. i was with my boyfriend for 2 years and im prob still in shock rite now. the only thing that is helping me at the minute is knowing that it was not my fault and that i will move on. so just give it time and you will be ok
Author Lost Dino Posted March 9, 2011 Author Posted March 9, 2011 Thanks encouraging me Good Arms! I won't care so much even I shed a tear... Though my relation failed finally, I should believe I can encounter someone more appropriate. But I don't think I can find so soon such a guy because I somehow just feel lonely,in this situation, would easily be caught who only intimate relation. Lost love,,,is really hard...
Good Arms Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 But I don't think I can find so soon such a guy because I somehow just feel lonely,in this situation, would easily be caught who only intimate relation. Lost love,,,is really hard... sunsh1n3 was right, it's OK to cry. It's more healthy to let it all out rather than bottle it up. And you're right, there's no need to rush into another relationship. I'm sure it will happen when you're ready. I agree, lost love is the HARDEST thing I've ever been through. You're not alone.
Author Lost Dino Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 sunsh1n3 You encountered sad situations too? I feel sorry for that. If you just separated, you should let your tear down much! We should pray this eyewater will wash away our damages even taking time. MUST BELIEVE future will definitely much nicer than right now when we overcame it!! Good arms Yeah, appropriate time will come.even I want to meet someone, but instead I'll find some another enjoyable thing.Yes,no-one is alone.
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