East7 Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 (edited) So to make the story short, I have a female friend that I know since many years. We have always communicated but we were never romantically interested in each-other. The thing is that since a couple of years I am sexually attracted at her, I have zero romantic interest but I just want to have sex with her. A couple of months ago, (she is single since 2 years) I kissed her and we began some petting in the car. She admitted she was turned on and she wanted to have sex too but she didn't want us to have sex out of a relationship because she has to think about tomorrow and blah..blah; so we didn't do anything. I thought such a waste.. Have you been sexually attracted to a friend without any romantic feeling ? Edited March 9, 2011 by East7
jane100 Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 What do you mean by "romantic feeling"? just curious.
Author East7 Posted March 9, 2011 Author Posted March 9, 2011 What do you mean by "romantic feeling"? just curious. I mean romantic interest/attraction, wanting to date her. I know her since many years, I never felt anything other than friendship. I have no interest in dating her or having a relationship because there is absolutely no spark.
fishtaco Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Yup I have. I normally don't act on it, but I have in the past. I don't think it's a big deal. Some people are okay with casual sex, some are not. As long as you respect each other, and be understanding that people that are okay with casual sex will probably ask for it, and that people that are not okay with casual sex will probably say no, then I don't see a problem.
lenny Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Before going down that road, once a relationship happens (even if it's just a sexual one) make sure your okay with it if things get ugly and your friendship is over. One of my best friends and I have always been a little attracted to each other. Even though throughout the years there has been ample opportunity to act on it, we just would never go there and risk losing a best friend.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 The whole FWB thing is skewed. Friends who have sex with each other are not technically, " friends". From experience, I've had sex with acquaintences, and the " friendship" starts and ends with the timeline of sexual intimacy. Otherwise, they're gone as fast as I'd known them.
oaks Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Have you been sexually attracted to a friend without any romantic feeling ? Yes, and sometimes I've even told them. Generally I'd rather keep them as friends (even the ones I tell) so don't try to act on it.
Author East7 Posted March 9, 2011 Author Posted March 9, 2011 Thanks to everyone for the inputs. I guess had we crossed that line, we would feel awkward afterwards. Maybe better that we didn't do anything, friendship would be compromised.
blackmagik Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 She is right with this one. I had sex with a girl who was my buddy. We would hang out and go drinking together. We would generally have a good time. One night things got a little heavy and we ended up sleeping together. We went out once more as friends but it wasn't the same. Things drifted after that and I basically lost a friend because of it. So if you value the friendship, think about that before you make the move for one night.
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