No contact in a short term relationship..?

[roman_pavluchenko]

We only dated for 2 months (i know its really short) and i was her first boyfriend. She ended it because she "didn't feel the same anymore" but really wanted to stay friends and even cried, but we had no serious problems apart from a little bumps. A few days later i thought it would be best to let her know how i feel about her and poured my heart out, but she said it couldnt happen.

 

It's been 5 weeks since the break-up now and i think NC may have screwed me over, i didn't do it to heal, i did it to bring her back but she hasn't contacted me at all, i think this is because i deleted her from facebook and she thinks i want nothing to do with her anymore - however i re-added her because i wanted to take up her offer on friendship, i wasn't as hurt/angry as i was originally when i deleted her, but she didn't accept it and told my friends how immature i was and she was pissed off, but apparently she didn't notice i had deleted her untill she got the request.

 

It just gets to me how she cried when we broke-up, asked for friendship and asked me to stay at her house for hours to just "talk." I've been NC for about a month now and have heard nothing from her, apart from the fact that we catch up in a group and she always stares at me when im talking aloud, adds things to what i say, when i look at her she looks away and i caught her asking about me when i walked back into the room at one stage. I went clubbing with her friend and heard her ask if i enjoyed it and had fun.

 

Just wondering if NC has ever worked for someone in a short-term relationship. I mean wouldn't going LC for like a month, then trying to talk to them 1 on1 through a text, just saying something along the lines of "hey, how are you" and going from there, if they don't reply, then you know they aren't missing you. But 2 months probably isn't long enough to completely cut contact with someone in hope that they'll miss the times you had, she did tell me "we had some really great times and i was really happy" so maybe for something as short-term as this, a little text after a month just asking how they are and going from there may be better. She was pretty cut up when she broke up with me apparently, it could just be since i was her first boyfriend she had never felt the guilt of hurting someone else before, but maybe there is still something left...i know contacting her constantly will "push her away" but 1 little text after 1 month after you've already lost them can't possibly ruin the slight chance that NC has in brining them back.

[Mixed28]

We only dated for 2 months (i know its really short) and i was her first boyfriend. She ended it because she "didn't feel the same anymore" but really wanted to stay friends and even cried, but we had no serious problems apart from a little bumps. A few days later i thought it would be best to let her know how i feel about her and poured my heart out, but she said it couldnt happen.

 

It's been 5 weeks since the break-up now and i think NC may have screwed me over, i didn't do it to heal, i did it to bring her back but she hasn't contacted me at all, i think this is because i deleted her from facebook and she thinks i want nothing to do with her anymore - however i re-added her because i wanted to take up her offer on friendship, i wasn't as hurt/angry as i was originally when i deleted her, but she didn't accept it and told my friends how immature i was and she was pissed off, but apparently she didn't notice i had deleted her untill she got the request.

 

It just gets to me how she cried when we broke-up, asked for friendship and asked me to stay at her house for hours to just "talk." I've been NC for about a month now and have heard nothing from her, apart from the fact that we catch up in a group and she always stares at me when im talking aloud, adds things to what i say, when i look at her she looks away and i caught her asking about me when i walked back into the room at one stage. I went clubbing with her friend and heard her ask if i enjoyed it and had fun.

 

Just wondering if NC has ever worked for someone in a short-term relationship. I mean wouldn't going LC for like a month, then trying to talk to them 1 on1 through a text, just saying something along the lines of "hey, how are you" and going from there, if they don't reply, then you know they aren't missing you. But 2 months probably isn't long enough to completely cut contact with someone in hope that they'll miss the times you had, she did tell me "we had some really great times and i was really happy" so maybe for something as short-term as this, a little text after a month just asking how they are and going from there may be better. She was pretty cut up when she broke up with me apparently, it could just be since i was her first boyfriend she had never felt the guilt of hurting someone else before, but maybe there is still something left...i know contacting her constantly will "push her away" but 1 little text after 1 month after you've already lost them can't possibly ruin the slight chance that NC has in brining them back.

 

Nope. I also dated a girl for 2 months and she broke up with me. She was my first gf and I was clingy. She broke up with me in November she hasn't texted me or called me sense (nor have I called texted her sence the day of the breakup) although she does say hi to me when she sees me (we go to the same college) sorry man you will have to move on.