Argghhh.. I need male buddies

[I Really Dont Know]

Ok, so here's my problem.

 

When I date, I'm always just "me myself and I". The girl always has her giiiiirls, her guy friend's who really likes them but acts like a brother and she's known for 20 years, her 'fam bam', her sisters, her coworker nerds who slobber all over her, and then "me".

 

 

While, I have "just her".

 

 

So.... knowing this, I try to avoid girls with too many people. IE. loners. But then, I'm not really a 'weird loner'. I'm actually "like" a person with friends, because I used to have some. So my personality is "like" a person who has friends.

 

But I don't. Anymore.

 

 

 

but, you just cannot find a girl who's the equivalent of me. If they are a loner-- They are ugly. Period. And that's why they are a loner. They aren't sexy. They hate sex. They love cats. They're not cute. They're not cool. They were like weirdos in high school. They have bad haircuts. They think not wearing makeup makes them more "real".

 

 

You never find a reasonably cute loner gal..

 

Whereas it seems there's plenty of (ungay) decent looking loner dudes.

 

 

 

Because we're all like.. out having to earn a living and defending the village n shyt.

 

 

It ain't fair. Why aren't there more kinda attractive loner single girls....... cause, they NEED social protection. Guys don't.

 

 

So... must I do what girls do, get a 'guy-friend' ..... to like, go drink coffee with, meet for drinks.. of course not. We'd be gay if we did.

 

 

That ain't fair.

 

 

What's a guy like me to do?? I hate other guys.

[ljpaterson]

I am a loner girl and I think that I am really good looking. I am a loner because I don't have any friends who are girls. I get along with guys better. End of story.

 

But when I try to be friends with a guy he just tries to get with me. I try to only be friends and then they end up hating me either when I tell them we can only be friends or when I end up getting a different boyfriend. It just seems like I cannot keep any friends.

 

I used to have alot of friends who were girls, but we just basically lost touch after I moved and got a boyfriend and kind of...started ignoring them. I guess.

 

Well my last relationship didn't turn out and now I am very much single and alone. But I don't mind being a loner. If I did reach out and try to find friends, they would probably welcome me with open arms. But meh.. I am fine being alone until I find someone I actually want to be around.

[I Really Dont Know]

you sound EXACTLY like the girl I'm "dating".

 

 

But at least she CAN find a girlfriend... I mean, it's more of an accepted thing that a girl can be like "heyyy girlfriend.. guys suck, let's go for a drink.. let's... go to this club"

 

Guys, it's gotta be like "dude.. wanna join our club. Wanna do some MMA. What kinda engine you got in there"

 

 

There's all these "interests" I gotta do when I really just wanna go "have a drink and meet someone cause I freaking lonely dude. I don't care about your stupid engine"

 

 

Girls can admit that to each other right from the start. They don't need to like.. pretend to be all into some 'scene' or base the friendship on some subculture or whatever.

[loadofhoopla]

Sorry to break it to you, but you are soooo wrong.

 

I was pretty popular in high school and college. I started dating my ex-bf and over the years all of our friends meshed. I left for law school a few hours away and didn't even bother trying to make friends here thinking I would transfer back home after my first semester. Plus, I am from a pretty big city and the school I am at is pretty small. A lot of people here grew up in small towns and in the country and for some reason I stupidly thought I wouldn't be able to mesh well with anyone-and even though my personality doesn't seem like it, I can be really shy until I get to know someone.

 

Needless to say we broke up within my first month after almost 4 years together. I lost most of my friends from home-almost everyone kept hanging out with him and I would avoid them like the plague because it was just too painful to talk to them knowing they were hanging out with him. And I had very little friends here because I spent the last 3 years of law school traveling to where my best friends lived just to get out of the town where I had no friends instead of trying to make friends.

 

Now, I am stuck at a point where it is almost the end, but I am so lonely here! And no, girls cannot just go up to other girls and ask to hang out. There is a code, just like there is with guys. You need to have something to start a conversation with, and everyone here is already in their groups.

 

It's funny, from my experience anyway in law school, popularity reverses itself. All of the people I would not have considered popular in high school and college are the center of their own specific clique. I always felt like I had great friends, a great life, and now I find myself so jealous of the people I used to consider nerds. I guess that's just life but gah does it suck sometimes.

 

I guess what the point of all of this is-you are not alone. And seriously, girls feel the exact same way you do. At least, my experience seems to coincide.