MissMoni Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 It's been 10 days since I've been in contact with my ex. The longest time I have gone without speaking to him at all is one month. I wrote on my blog that I was feeling it was time to let go and that I was tired of hurting and I realized that he read this post, among others. I don't want to appear weak to him and I am afraid these posts about still needing to move on 5 months later is just going to make him think I'm unstable or think that I was lying when I said I still cared, because some of them were kind of harsh (not harsh in a I hate You way but harsh in a I don't need you in my life kind of way) I'm afraid that I'm going to try to contact him!! He keeps reading my blog and I want so bad for it to mean he still cares...
depplover_1980 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Well if he has been reading this blog, he knows how you feel and DOESN'T CARE enough to contact you.
MasonM618 Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 If you definitely know he is still reading your blog then he is more than likely still interested and probably trying to figure out exactly where you do stand in the situation. If you want to potentially get back to the "basics" with him, and you know he is reading your blog, start by being more positive in your posts. Dont write things seeming like you're all done with things, if your really not, that will only backfire on you! Here is a bit of advice, post positive blurbs about things you did today or something you did recently that you enjoyed. Than non-chalantly add in how it reminded you of a certain thing you did with him and how fun it was. This will not only be disarming but will make him think of the good times that he shared with you! This could open the channels of conversation even if a small one, thats where it should start.
IfiKnewThen Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 i think thats excellent advise mason618!!! you should probably go with that missmoni. and AFTER perhaps following mason618's advise then maybe consider not publically posting your blog at all. and also be careful who you trust. mutual so called friends and all. don't go talking about him. make him wonder. but don't make him think he was canceled out like mason said.
Mcnulty Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 Tis a weird scenario. It's like sitting in the street, upset and stranded with your ex watching you from another building with binoculars!!! You know that he knows that you know he's reading this WTF!!!! Can't get my head round the sense in this one, sorry guys, I'm English if that means anything...joke! Seriously though, no game playing, change your ID and stop this creep from reading stuff. he dumped you I'm guessing? Why is he reading your blogs? Get rid of him and go NC fully.
Author MissMoni Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Well, I think I kind of screwed up him reading it anymore since the last post I made (when I wrote this post) was about needing to move on and that things fall apart so better things can fall together 0_o. Thank you all for your advice. Mcnulty, I would change my ID but unfortunately it's a site I am paying to host so I can't really change the URL without paying again. I could block his IP address but he hasn't read it over two weeks, so I guess I bored him / he got mad that I said I was trying to move on. Yes, he dumped me. It's been 23 days NC, haven't heard from him at all. The worst part is tomorrow is my birthday and while I know I shouldn't have any expectations from him at all, a small part of me wonders if I ruined any chances of him acknowledging my birthday by deleting him from Facebook...I know it shouldn't matter but I think it's kind of sad I could be with someone for 2 years and then they not even care about my birthday at all.
IfiKnewThen Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 i hope you had a happy birthday despite what you are going through
betterdeal Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I have a blog in my real name. I used that to post stuff about cooking, the local area, and stuff to do with my job. I have another blog with a made up name that I use to post personal stuff about relationships, feelings, philosophy etc. Saves having to think about what I'm writing and who will read it.
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