oaks Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 The same applies to sex - yeah it feels good but that 30 seconds of fun eventually ends up in aggravation of some kind. Use more lube.
Ruby Slippers Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 And of course the fear of being alone. When it really is not as scary as some would make it out to be. True. A single friend and I discussed this recently. The worst case scenario for a person living alone is that no one is there when you die. She and I concluded that you wouldn't care, because you'd be dead. It sounds morbid, but it makes sense. Personally, I prefer to be alone with my own company than with someone whose company I don't enjoy much and just have to tolerate. If I don't have peace and serenity in my life, I'm very unhappy.
OliveOyl Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 This is something I have been thinking about for a number of years. As most relationships end in the proverbial train wreck, what is the point of having them in the first place? This is the equivalent of hitting yourself in the head with a hammer and than wondering why your head hurts, followed by you doing it again repeatedly. This is illogical and makes absolutely no sense. The divorce rate is like 60% in the US. That means you have only a 40% chance of it working out. Less than 1 in 2. doesnt seem so soulful now does it. Ok, people get lonley - yeah so. The same applies to sex - yeah it feels good but that 30 seconds of fun eventually ends up in aggravation of some kind. Don't equate "success" with "until death till you part" and then you'll be fine. You don't look at your high school BFFs and say the relationships were a failure even if they didn't continue. Because you don't expect to be with them forever. People change. Circumstances change. Life is change. Most relationships do have a shelf-life (my personal opinion). If we learn to end them more gracefully then they won't be the equivalent of beating ourselves over the head.
LoganParker Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 This is something I have been thinking about for a number of years. As most relationships end in the proverbial train wreck, what is the point of having them in the first place? This is the equivalent of hitting yourself in the head with a hammer and than wondering why your head hurts, followed by you doing it again repeatedly. This is illogical and makes absolutely no sense. The divorce rate is like 60% in the US. That means you have only a 40% chance of it working out. Less than 1 in 2. Most people bounce from relationship to relationship to relationship. Its a pointless exercise and most of the time ends with no positive outcome. Even the people with so-called "soul mates" end up breaking up/divorced. It doesnt seem so soulful now does it. Ok, people get lonley - yeah so. The same applies to sex - yeah it feels good but that 30 seconds of fun eventually ends up in aggravation of some kind. I have heard that saying that says you havent lived till you loved, well what goes with that is that you havent lived until you have gone through a breakup or divorce either. So why do people keep doing it? PS. Keep in mind this is not what I believe but am just curious as to why people keep doing it. First of all, if you live in a conscious way, (most people don't unfortunately) then you can actually learn from every relationship and ultimately learn about who you are, and what you want from another person. You will also become a better lover. Divorce rates are off the charts yes... but this can be for a ton of other reasons. I don't think discounting the value of a relationship. I think one of the main reasons divorce is on the rise, is not because relationships are bad or they don't work. I think it's because people have lost touch with how to be happy by themselves, and when they get together, bad things happen. But that's just my unqualified theory. Beyond that... humans need community. It's a human need to feel love. There's scientific studies out there saying that babies who get no love after birth DIE. So that's my 2 cents.
AverageJoe Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 True. A single friend and I discussed this recently. The worst case scenario for a person living alone is that no one is there when you die. She and I concluded that you wouldn't care, because you'd be dead. It sounds morbid, but it makes sense. There is never a guarantee that you will not die alone to begin with. This is not an absolute and to think otherwise is somewhat short sighted. Yet, some people fear it and let it determine the choices they make (even bad ones) in their lives.
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