Goodwoman Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Well, Im about to disappear. About 6 months ago my longtime boyfriend of 6 years decided to leave me for another woman. He moved right in with her when he left 'our' place. A couple weeks after that, I found out through an old friend he had been cheating with 'numerous' women thoughout the whole 6 years we were together. Heartbreak all over again. Not being able to deal with anymore of this, I quit my job last week and have plans to move back to my hometown. I have secured a job there and am looking forward to getting my fresh start in 2 weeks. I also plan on changing my number as well. In the 6 months we have been apart, my ex has texted me every 2 weeks. He is pulling on my heart strings and in a couple weeks, it will all be over. I hope its the relief Im waiting for. Cutting the final ties so to speak. I just need some support right now. Im not questioning my decision to move but, am wondering what happens next. I pray that after I change my number the contact stops. I doubt he would go even further to contact me if he realizes I have changed my number or hears I've left town. Anyone know a similar story? How did it turn out? Did moving on become easier? Was it a good fresh start? After 6 months, I really hope I can put it behind me now.
Beeotch Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 (edited) Sorry about everything.... You are doing the right thing though! Not a lot of people have that strength. Many people allow this to drag on indefinitely in the name of "hope". I am CERTAIN that once you move, change your number etc, initially it will be weird and you may even have second thoughts but trust, your fresh start will be wonderful and you will move forward and realize each day what a great idea it was. I do hope you get that sense of release/relief.....and even if it doesn't happen the instant you change your number or move, trust it will happen more quickly since you've been taking the steps to do what is best for you. I am sure you're a great woman and you should take the lessons away from this situation, evaluate your life and I'm sure you will move on to bigger and better things. Edited March 8, 2011 by Beeotch
depplover_1980 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Goodwoman, this is a good move for you - moving one step back (home) to move two steps forward in the long run. I shall expect he will leave you alone now, with the only form of contact via the internet, to which you can delete without ever reading. What a complete and utter shallow wanker you were with for 6 years - it's amazing how we can be conned by others, it happens all the time. Don't beat yourself up over his issues too much, infact rejoice in the fact you've taken this independant step to get better. Right, I presume you will still have a few friends in this town? Slowly catching up with people, who, what, where to go etc will keep you occupied for a good while. Your new job will open new doors socially, so just take your time and keep smiling. Eventually you will be going along very nicely again. Concentrate on building this new life and don't get into another relationship for a year or so, until you are confident and happy.
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