AlexiHC Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 So I met this girl on new years, we've kissed but nothing more at this point, hang out at least once a week lately. I get this vibe she isn't that into me, her friend has told me she is into me but hasn't crossed the line of seeing the relationship feeling yet, whatever that means, and that she is worried a guy won't understand her very busy life. Her business stems from hanging with her friends all the time. Btw she is 28 I'm 23. It's been 2 months should I cut my losses and say peace or what? We text a lot, like half the day almost everyday, I ignored her for like 4 hours last week and she had her friend call my buddy to see what was going on, WTF?
whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Just come right out and ask her what is going on? What she feels and where things are headed. Don't play games, it's not worth it.
Author AlexiHC Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 I already did, after the last time we Hung out I strait up said thanks for texting me, I was starting to think you weren't into me anymore to which she replied she was just tired and it wasn't me and then suggested going to a movie this Friday, in my gut I feel like she has serious commitment issues which goes with the territory of her being almost 29, cute and single with a good job, doesn't add up. She also never came out and said she was into me either, I'm half tempted to just completely ignore her from this point forward
bac Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 I did not get the problem. Why do you need the girl? Are you looking for a partner for texting? Do you really want to have sex with a female? If you want a female because you want to have sex, you might want to do that. Stop texting , if texting is not your main goal. Do kissing, making out and enjoy sex.
Author AlexiHC Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 Wow really your brilliant why didn't I think of that! The problem is she is busy and I see her like a few hours once a week at this point in a public place. Were not dating, that's the problem. Your right though I'm done texting her, This girl just got an invite to my ignore list
lululucy Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Wow really your brilliant why didn't I think of that! The problem is she is busy and I see her like a few hours once a week at this point in a public place. Were not dating, that's the problem. Your right though I'm done texting her, This girl just got an invite to my ignore list .... I'm confused. She is obviously into you. Maybe she is scared, maybe she is just busy, but it doesn't seem like you've made any real moves. You're friendzoning yourself by texting her ALL THE TIME. I don't see what she's done to go on an ignore list. You see her at a public place? Why couldn't you make that into a date? You're putting in zero effort and expecting her to fall all over herself to be with you. She probably thinks you're not serious about her at this point because you haven't made any moves.
tinktronik Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Wow really your brilliant why didn't I think of that! The problem is she is busy and I see her like a few hours once a week at this point in a public place. Were not dating, that's the problem. Your right though I'm done texting her, This girl just got an invite to my ignore list Sounds to me like the suggestion of a movie on Friday could be construed as a date. Is it perhaps that you are missing the signals?
bac Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Wow really your brilliant why didn't I think of that! The problem is she is busy and I see her like a few hours once a week at this point in a public place. Were not dating, that's the problem. Your right though I'm done texting her, This girl just got an invite to my ignore list IMO she wants to have sex with you but you are too afraid of sex. She is waiting for you to initiate something sexual but you are so afraid of rejection/and sex that you are willing to ignore her.
jadedone Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 It's just another woman who likes the attention. She is stringing him along for the attention, nothing more.
Andy_K Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Do you have the balls to flirt with her openly, kiss her in a public place, and invite her somewhere less public? Take some steps in the right direction and it will be pretty obvious where her interest level lies.
cutecatch Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 So I met this girl on new years, we've kissed but nothing more at this point, hang out at least once a week lately. I get this vibe she isn't that into me, her friend has told me she is into me but hasn't crossed the line of seeing the relationship feeling yet, whatever that means, and that she is worried a guy won't understand her very busy life. Her business stems from hanging with her friends all the time. Btw she is 28 I'm 23. It's been 2 months should I cut my losses and say peace or what? We text a lot, like half the day almost everyday, I ignored her for like 4 hours last week and she had her friend call my buddy to see what was going on, WTF? Ignore her for awhile. Then in about a month ask get out.
Author AlexiHC Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 The whole reason I made this post was her friend telling me she "doesn't feel the relationship feeling yet" which in assuming means she doesn't view me as dating material "yet". Now she hasn't made much of an effort to have any one on one time, every time I've seen her except the first time where we had dinner and drinks, all her friends have been there, shell usually be "tired" and go home or have to take her friends home, hence why I can't take it from public to private, I've kissed her in public multiple times. Pretty much she's always with her friends and this Friday would be the 2nd time in over 2 months I'll hang out with her alone if we hang out. Maybe I'm not cut out to date a "busy" girl. I feel like I'm wasting my time almost
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