Do you just hit a point when you don't want anyone at all?

[just_some_guy]

I'm hitting a point where I just don't feel like I want anyone at all. I still have a desire for sex, but I just don't want all the the other BS that comes with another human being. I don't want all the trouble, I don't want to share my (sleep) bed, I don't care what someone else is feeling, or anything else. Fortunate to be financially independent, I don't need someone to share expenses. I don't want to smell their breath or body clean or not, I don't want to share my bathroom, laundry, shopping or anything else. It isn't that I'm anti-social, but I'm finding I just don't want anyone so close to me. Maybe it will change some day, but certainly not now.

 

I just feel like all those cells in my brain or heart or soul or whatever are just used up.

 

Just don't give a crap if anyone loves me or not.

[You Go Girl]

It's ok to feel that way, you know. Part of you knows that eventually you're going to want intimacy, to be held, to be cared for, but it certainly doesn't have to be right now, immediately.

So live for yourself, just you, for awhile.

And if the day should come that you feel you're missing something, you can always change your mind!

[denise_xo]

I've kind of felt that way all my life. In the end I opted for marriage and I sometimes have doubts that it was the right decision. In a hypothetical situation of being single, I would stay single. I do care about whether people love me, though. It's important for me to have a set of close people in my life. But not necessarily a typical relationship.

[What_Next]

I think it's normal for almost everyone to pass through stages where they feel like this. I for instance have been feeling like I'd be happier alone lately quite a lot. With one exception my child.

 

Perhaps this is a clear sign that you are not ready to enter into any relationship period and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. You have to make yourself happy first and foremost; right?

[2.50 a gallon]

Yeah that was me thirty years ago, following the separation from my XW.

 

Sex was still number one, but I did not need or want any of the emotional issues that came with it. I was quite competant at cooking, keeping my place clean, laundry, etc. and was happy living my life without any excess baggage.

 

I took it too an extreme, and found myself trapped, as there were times that it came back to haunt me. Like during the holidays, I almost always had a squeeze to keep me occupied, but then the lonliness would set in, as I was still alone. I could be at a great party with great friends, having a great time and feel totally alone.

 

I avoided vacations, as though they could be fun, they were also stressful, as I wanted to share that fun and make memories with somebody special. I can recall watching early one morning as two bugling elk went to sparring less than 50 yards from me. A beautiful scene, as the aspen leaves had changed and there was fog in the air. And nobody to share it with.

 

I was too afraid, and also I had forgotten how to let someone close to me again.

 

Luckily the right lady came along, and changed me back, life is so much better now that I have some one to share it with.

[worldgonewrong]

I'm sort of at that point now.

My wife was the only woman I ever really truly LOVED. Everyone else before was just nonsense, and I never had my heart broken before.

So I'm in this weird limbo between feeling like I've got a lot of love to give, while on the other hand feeling like I don't want to make myself vulnerable to another woman for a long, long time.

[2sure]

My divorce has been final for 7 months. Im still not interested in dating. I have no visual of myself in a future relationship. But I am giving and receiving love and plenty of it.

 

Sometimes I miss him specifically, sometimes I miss having a husband in general. But pretty much , I like things the way they are.

 

I dont miss sex yet. Not sure what that means.

[BlindRage]

I think I'm at that point. I did attempt to connect with someone but I just don't feel like that will ever be possible again. I think she made me so conscious that I won't ever get heartbroken again, I won't let anything get that far. I doubt I'll be having anything though.

[BearMox]

similar place here.

 

10 months since my divorce was final. Its not that sharing or building a life with someone scares me, but the solace of a simple quiet home is part of a good healing process for me.

[Woggle]

I felt like that after my divorce until I met my current spouse. To me a relationship meant that I had to cut off my balls and emasculate myself which I was not prepared to do. I met somebody who did not demand that from me and we are as happy as ever today.

[WorldIsYours]

I felt like that after my divorce until I met my current spouse. To me a relationship meant that I had to cut off my balls and emasculate myself which I was not prepared to do. I met somebody who did not demand that from me and we are as happy as ever today.

 

Same for me.

[Duckduckgoose]

I like touching, being touched, sex, companionship, etc; too much to feel as though I want to be alone the rest of my life.

 

I get a limited amount of companionship from my birds...its not the same as being married though.

 

Having someone to come home to and tell about your day, and hear theirs, to help them when they are feeling down.. and lot of things that come with being involved/married is worth some of the **** you have to deal with to stay married.

 

In cases of abuse, cheating, neglect, violence no... but putting up with their quirks is fine.

[Logik]

Never again. I'd rather be alone.

[BlindRage]

Never again. I'd rather be alone.

 

Better to be alone than in bad company.

[hopesndreams]

I won't want to be alone if his penis is made of chocolate and shoots out money.

[PollyIvy]

They say that people who really, really tried, and who really loved deeply, usually need time alone - they don't jump into a new relationship immediately.

It sounds like you need some 'me' time.