TheHandyMan02 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Two months ago i broke up with my girlfriend of and year and a half. Things were not working out and we had been growing apart for awhile and it was best for both of us. it was extremely hard to decided to finally do it but it was for the best. i recently discovered that she is already dating her ex boyfriend that she dated before me ( and always told me that she hated). she claims that it is not a rebound and that it is for real. I was doing much better not thinking about her until i found out about this and now it is hard to get them out of my head. Even though i am the one who ended it i still have a hard time thinking about her with someone else so soon. is this normal and do you think its only a rebound?
Layzie89 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 I feel for you Handyman. I guess the only thing you can do now is try and see it in a different light. Your ex claimed to have hated him while she was with you and yet, right after the breakup she goes running back to him. The action alone says a lot about her personality. The way I would look at this if it were to happen to me is that I'm happy it happened sooner rather than later. If she went back to her ex so soon, that means he's always been on her mind and she would have went back to him somewhere down the line, regardless of circumstance. Whether or not it is a rebound, it shouldn't matter. She was lying to you the entire time about her hating him...as hard as it may be, keep walking and don't look back.
hopeful4someday Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Two months ago i broke up with my girlfriend of and year and a half. Things were not working out and we had been growing apart for awhile and it was best for both of us. it was extremely hard to decided to finally do it but it was for the best. i recently discovered that she is already dating her ex boyfriend that she dated before me ( and always told me that she hated). she claims that it is not a rebound and that it is for real. I was doing much better not thinking about her until i found out about this and now it is hard to get them out of my head. Even though i am the one who ended it i still have a hard time thinking about her with someone else so soon. is this normal and do you think its only a rebound? You broke up with her. What do you want, for her to sit at home sobbing hoping that you'll come back? You can't have your cake and eat it too. Take it as your cue to move on too.
fresh8 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Yep, time to move on and cut ties with her before it affects you.
Author TheHandyMan02 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 I dont want her to sit around wanting me back and i don't want her to remain single and unhappy forever. I also dont want her back, and i would never presume to tell her she cant date someone after i broke up with her. Even though i feel this way it still makes me upset that shes with someone else and i still have a hard time thinking about it and i just wanted to know if its normal
fresh8 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 It always sucks to see an ex move on first. It is definitely normal.
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