Guilty898790 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 A few nights ago my girlfriend and 2 other friends went to a club. At the club I grabbed my girlfriend's friend's ass and massaged her inner thigh with my knee. I was very drunk. This girl that I did this too is not going to tell my girlfriend. I'm feeling incredibly guilty and shameful. I don't have any specific questions. Any advice at this point would be appreciated. I only ask that the comments not be particularly negative. My actions were shameful and I feel sick thinking about them, already. I don't need to be convinced that I did a bad thing. Thank you.
phillyfan Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 A few nights ago my girlfriend and 2 other friends went to a club. At the club I grabbed my girlfriend's friend's ass and massaged her inner thigh with my knee. I was very drunk. This girl that I did this too is not going to tell my girlfriend. I'm feeling incredibly guilty and shameful. I don't have any specific questions. Any advice at this point would be appreciated. I only ask that the comments not be particularly negative. My actions were shameful and I feel sick thinking about them, already. I don't need to be convinced that I did a bad thing. Thank you. Dude Ive been there b4, I was a major playa, read major douche really but I though I was the coolest at the time LOL. All I can say is u r a douche. But I say that in a nice way from someone whos done the same, u need to step bk and say, u know what, those girls r probly gona fall out ova me, do i really want to be that douche that freaks out my girls friend for bein a drunk sleaze, then makes her keep quiet which is evn worse, or do i be honest. Dude, u be honest, tell the truth, say u made a mistake, then look at urself and ask why u wud treat ppl like this - ur life is gona end up sh*t in the long term if u dont fix that typa behavior. Dont be a dick anymore be the good guy, life is so much betta bein the good guy. Good luck dude.
neveragain1 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 A few nights ago my girlfriend and 2 other friends went to a club. At the club I grabbed my girlfriend's friend's ass and massaged her inner thigh with my knee. I was very drunk. This girl that I did this too is not going to tell my girlfriend. I'm feeling incredibly guilty and shameful. I don't have any specific questions. Any advice at this point would be appreciated. don't try to blame this on drinking. drinking simply helps people do what is in their character to do, but otherwise wouldn't do if sober. so basically you have cheating in you and it comes out when drinking. so either don't be in a committed relationship and let your gf go, or stop going out drinking if you can't handle it.
Imajerk17 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Let it go dude. You made a mistake, just don't make it again. It's not a huge deal.
Imajerk17 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Let it go dude. It's not a huge deal. You made a mistake, we all make mistakes, just don't make it again.
Space Ritual Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Let it go dude. It's not a huge deal. You made a mistake, we all make mistakes, just don't make it again. LOL...Mistakes are buying wrong bread at the store...not masturbating other women with your knee at Club Retardo... In all honesty I thing the original poster needs to inform his GF what type of behaviors he exhibits when given the opportunity. She should be informed exactly what took place. Any attempt to not tell her is just covering up for the OP's own butt, as opposed to being honest enough to admit he has a serious character flaw. Of course, it will always be more easy to sweep it under the rug, forget it happened...oh about until the next weekend when they all go out again....and it will happen again. The OP must come clean and own his actions. And as for this friend of hers...not much of a friend either... BTW....I am actually being nice to the OP, as he asks we refrain from being "particularly negative"...just more proof of someone now wanting to own their actions...
betterdeal Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Guilt shows you have empathy for your girlfriend, which is a good thing. And asking for advice outside of your social group (i.e. here) also shows discretion and therefore sensitivity. You've taken the blame fairly on your own shoulders - another good thing. You can ask yourself why did you do it? As another poster has said, booze just loosens our inhibitions, and so your actions were real and something you wanted to do. You've started by being honest with yourself. Continue the process and understand, accept and honour your own feelings.
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