jojo8026 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hello, i just got done talking to my mom about my girlfriend brittney. Brittney and i live a little over 3 hours apart, I live in Harlan,Iowa and She lives in Waverly,Iowa. We met online using a website called MyYearbook. We have been dating for a month and 1 week now. We both love each other and talk almost everyday on the phone, im a 18 year old junior in high school while she is a 16 year old sophmore. My mom said this would never work because the distances are too great and that LDRs are really hard when your in high school. Me and brittney really want to make this work she is completing drivers ed in may so she can drive down here during the summer. Im not sure what to do i love brittney to death and she loves me and i dont want to break up because of the distance between us. I want to prove my parents wrong and defy the distance and make it work between us together as bf and gf. Any advice
TokyoG33kyGal Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 your mom might not have said it the right way, but she has a point. though i am not saying this will not work. you two are still young, still in high school and anything can happen in the future. if you two are really set to make this relationship work, you have to have regular communication and meetings/dates. i think three-hour distance is tolerable. just enjoy each other for now
Author jojo8026 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 thanks we both love eachother sooo much and shes my first girlfriend so i dont want to loose her just because my mom thinks this wont work. We both want to make this work, the distance between us doesnt matter to us since we havent met yet. As long as i can see her 2 weekends out of every month during the summer im happy
Omei Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 thanks we both love eachother sooo much and shes my first girlfriend so i dont want to loose her just because my mom thinks this wont work. We both want to make this work, the distance between us doesnt matter to us since we havent met yet. As long as i can see her 2 weekends out of every month during the summer im happy Your post's feel intense and rushed for a 18 year old, and she's even younger. This seems like infatuation to me, your first huge crush. Your mother is probably thinking that this will be the first of many girlfriends to come, which is why maybe she said it wouldn't work. You may have strong feelings for this girl but chances are it's not a deep love you haven't met yet, people are and can seem much different than online. Most people don't come to learn all the lessons of love till after their first relationships or longer. 3 Hour's isn't bad my only advice is you *both* learn to drive to see each other and take it from there, finish school.
mberam Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 (edited) Don't let distance stop you. Nothing is more meaningful in life than being in love with someone. Love and joy are the only things that are truly important. Don't listen to people tell you it's just a crush. Don't listen to your mother! Teenagers can be in love just as much as adults can. In fact their love can be more pure because they haven't been jaded like many adults. Go with what you feel and don't let distance stop you. Move closer to her or have her move closer to you eventually. Be patient until you can be closer to her. If you love her, give it all to her...be completely vulnerable. Love is not logical. It's not something you can break down and put in a box. You don't rationalize it - YOU FEEL IT. FEEL IT FULLY! Go into it, enjoy it. It's a GIFT! There will be joy, pain, laughter...all of these things are a gift! Don't abandon everything in your life, like school, career, etc...use those things as motivation to provide a better life for the two of you and be patient with each other while you work towards the better life. Don't abandon your friends and your hobbies and make her the sole focus of your life, because then you will get sick of each other. You need your own life as well, but at the same time, always keep the love the #1 priority without making it the only priority. It's not your whole life, but it's the most important thing in your life. In the end, when you're on your death bed, you will ponder love and your relationships. You will not ponder school, work, cars, things, or anything material. Trust me! Besides, even if it didn't work or you make a mistake, you're young enough to have plenty of time to learn from it, in which case, it's not a mistake. Edited March 8, 2011 by mberam
creighton0123 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Omei has it right. Think about practicality. What are the two of you thinking after high school? You'll be graduating in a few months. What are you doing after that? She still has another two years left. What will things be like during that time? Don't sacrifice anything at this age. Take every opportunity to grow as a person first, knowing that there's plenty of time for love.
Author jojo8026 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 thanks mberam thats the best advice i have recieved yet, and distance is one thing me and brittney do not care about as long as we get to see eachother in the end we will be happy!!
Omei Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Don't let distance stop you. Nothing is more meaningful in life than being in love with someone. Love and joy are the only things that are truly important. Don't listen to people tell you it's just a crush. Don't listen to your mother! Teenagers can be in love just as much as adults can. In fact their love can be more pure because they haven't been jaded like many adults. While it may be true young love can feel pure it often doesn't last because teenager's often don't understand what it takes to make a long term relationship work, teen's to be "I" instead of "we" in relationships.
Author jojo8026 Posted March 9, 2011 Author Posted March 9, 2011 jeez Omei your full of hope arent you
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