nowrong Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I recently found that my long distance BF has been watching a lot of porn. We see each other every weekend and have a decent sex life. He tells me that I should not feel that he loves me any less but that men are very visual and just want to look. He says it is no reflection on me. He assures me that he is not trying to pick any one up and I do believe that but it does bother me that he is in a forum and looking at lots of other women. The people in his forum group are all men except for a couple of women. These guys have a large woman fetish (which I am not) and they take pictures of large women and morph them and like looking at these grossly distorted women. My bf assures me that he is fine with my body and likes all body types. He approached me first and flirted with me before asking me out. We have been dating for almost 3 years and I do believe he loves me by the little simple things that he does but the porn concerns me. Thoughts?
phillyfan Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I recently found that my long distance BF has been watching a lot of porn. We see each other every weekend and have a decent sex life. He tells me that I should not feel that he loves me any less but that men are very visual and just want to look. He says it is no reflection on me. He assures me that he is not trying to pick any one up and I do believe that but it does bother me that he is in a forum and looking at lots of other women. The people in his forum group are all men except for a couple of women. These guys have a large woman fetish (which I am not) and they take pictures of large women and morph them and like looking at these grossly distorted women. My bf assures me that he is fine with my body and likes all body types. He approached me first and flirted with me before asking me out. We have been dating for almost 3 years and I do believe he loves me by the little simple things that he does but the porn concerns me. Thoughts? LOL dude u shud be happy-he neva sees, so u neva gets action, but is cool wit that cos he loves u, n thinks u r worth waitin for, but hey, he is a man, so a littl porn means he gets a lotta frustration dealt with LOL. AND hes honest enuf 2 tell u bout it. Sounds good 2 me. Now if he starts tryin 2 make u fat like those web girls now THATS the time to run:D
Chi townD Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Ummm....okay....anyways......Some women don't mind porn, some do...just the way it is. If it bothers you that much, you really need to have a heart to heart with him. Personally, I feel as long as he's not chatting it up with women in forums and chat rooms. Then I feel there are worse things he could be doing than looking at images on a screen.
Eclypse Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 That large woman fetish forum bothers me. It's one thing to do porn in private but to share? I dunno. Seems weird to me. Porn in of itself shouldn't be a problem. We all have things that turn us on the most. For me it's high heels and lesbians. My gf can only accommodate 1 so I turn to porn for the other. She told me she doesn't like porn but has no objection to me watching it. Are you mainly concerned about the porn or the Internet forum he frequents?
Author nowrong Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 Thanks for the thoughts. I think they make me feel better. He is not chatting with anyone so I feel ok. He at least is not in a bar drinking and actually flirting so I guess just looking at morphed images isn't so bad as long as he's having sex with me. I'm a little concerned that it may go further but it seems that he is not doing that and I am going to trust him.
lululucy Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 How much is "a lot"? If it's once a day (or even twice a day depending on his age), I wouldn't be alarmed. You're not there during the week so there isn't much else he could do. And as long as he isn't talking with people on the forum, I wouldn't be concerned.
race_engine Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 well the porn thing isn't a problem. the forums he goes to to talk about it though? that seems weird as hell to me. no one i know does that. when a guy wants to bust a nut and there's no girl around to satisfy him, naturally he'll look at porn and have his fun lol but once the deed is done, why go "discuss" more porn related things on a forum? that seems really weird/creepy to me hahaha idk maybe there's nothing to worry about but it strikes me as odd. but porn by itself is totally fine i would say, all it is is an outlet to release some sexual tension and fantasies lol, i personally don't think porn by itself ever hurt anyone.
race_engine Posted March 10, 2011 Posted March 10, 2011 also the fact that he's looking at morphed images of fat ladies is very bizarre...hmm. guess everyone has different fetishes? LMFAO
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