CluelessGuy1986 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Edit: Sorry, I think this may be in the wrong section. Hi, I have been seeing this really great girl for over a month now, things are going well. She comes to my place often and we are constantly making out. Ive gotten as far as the breasts (kissing, sucking, etc...) but havent tried to venture anywhere else. Theres no better feeling than kissing her in certain spots (all above waist so far) and hearing her moan and having her clench me tighter. My issue is, im not sure how to approach below the waist. The breasts I just went for, but I kind of feel hesitant about the rest. Like how do I go from making out fully clothed on a couch to going down on her? It sounds silly typing it out, but it seems to be a wall im not sure how to clumb. Is this something I should try talking with her about first? We havent had the whole sex talk and I suspect she may be a virgin/very inexperienced, my experience level isnt very high either. Thanks for any advice.
SarcasticBlonde Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Edit: Sorry, I think this may be in the wrong section. Hi, I have been seeing this really great girl for over a month now, things are going well. She comes to my place often and we are constantly making out. Ive gotten as far as the breasts (kissing, sucking, etc...) but havent tried to venture anywhere else. Theres no better feeling than kissing her in certain spots (all above waist so far) and hearing her moan and having her clench me tighter. My issue is, im not sure how to approach below the waist. The breasts I just went for, but I kind of feel hesitant about the rest. Like how do I go from making out fully clothed on a couch to going down on her? It sounds silly typing it out, but it seems to be a wall im not sure how to clumb. Is this something I should try talking with her about first? We havent had the whole sex talk and I suspect she may be a virgin/very inexperienced, my experience level isnt very high either. Thanks for any advice. If you think she is a virgin you def need to talk to her prior to giving oral sex.
spackle Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 for starters, have you let your hand drift from over her legs to between them?
Celestine Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 You say she's a virgin or very inexperienced so I assume she is also kind of insecure so that you figured this. Definitely talk to her but make it comfortable, ask her what she'd like, what she's ready for.
blackmagik Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 If she is a virgin you should talk to her. However if you don't think she is and you have made it that far you can always "test" the waters to see if she is comfortable with you in that area. A girl will let you know if she wants it or not. They wont be shy, trust me. Take your time and look for clues as to what she is feeling about the situation. You could start by touching and rubbing her outside of her clothes to see if she is interested then you just slowly work you way towards it. Just kiss your way to it and go for it, like I said if she isn't comfortable, she'll let you know. (in most cases and all my experiences.)
Gypsy_Soul Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 It's strange to me how people aren't as shy to do the actual sex acts but too shy to talk about them to the people they want to or are doing it with. Just ask her if she likes it or wants to try. Make it a conversation about sex, you'll find out soon enough if she's a virgin.
reservoirdog1 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 You could start by touching and rubbing her outside of her clothes to see if she is interested then you just slowly work you way towards it. Just kiss your way to it and go for it, like I said if she isn't comfortable, she'll let you know. (in most cases and all my experiences.) This. Sounds like she's very into what you've been doing so far. If you do the above and she stops you when you head below the belt, DON'T take it as rejection; she's just not ready yet. If she's already been topless around you and you've made out a lot, on a number of different occasions, then she's pretty clearly into you. Make a couple of bold, confident moves, but don't act pissy if she wants to wait. At the very least, if she stops you, she'll probably give you some more info -- she's a virgin, she wants to wait, etc. Then you've have your answer.
Author CluelessGuy1986 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 It's strange to me how people aren't as shy to do the actual sex acts but too shy to talk about them to the people they want to or are doing it with. Just ask her if she likes it or wants to try. Make it a conversation about sex, you'll find out soon enough if she's a virgin. Thanks for all the replies everyone. Its not that I am too shy to have the talk, it just hasnt really happened yet. Im going to try and somehow tactfully bring it up, put our cards on the table so to speak. And to answer a previous question, no I havent ventured to that area at all, not even brushing through the clothes. I just dont want her to think I am going too slow (again this is where the talk would come in handy I guess!), in saying that she hasnt really initiated anything other than some kissing.
betterdeal Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 First rule: it's for fun! Do what comes naturally to you. You can start by playing with her trouser button with your teeth, then undo her trousers slowly and with a smile on your face; making light of it; making noises that make it clear you're in a playful mood; you'll know if she's not in the mood because you're attuned to her feelings. If she isn't, that's cool, some other time. Or you can gobble your way down there, confidently and quickly undo her trousers and pull them and her knickers off. The passion is high, your both breathing quickly, you breath in her musky scent and then you taste her and pleasure her; your tongue and hands exploring her. Or you can discuss it with her and just experiment. Remember the first rule and you'll be okay
K.K. Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Or you can gobble your way down there, HAHAHA I'm about to pee myself!!!!!!
whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 This is some kinky ****! *grabs popcorn* I know! Makes me wanna bring back the "HOT Friday threads!" (Do a site search on that! ) Just wing it. Let this happen naturally, enjoy her boobs, and play around, explore her body with her hands and fingers. When she's comfortable to be completely naked in bed with you, or just gets really hot and into things, she'll probably end up pushing your head down south without even paying attention. Power of the P*ssy!
dreamingoftigers Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 If you manage to get that far, gently rub your hands up and down the outside of her underwear and then slowly remove them. If you start oral, then (if she's shaved) lick the outer lips first, it causes a completely different sensation and wakes the whole area up, do that a few times before diving in anywhere else. Dont just focus on the clitoris, but do make it your main focus. Find what consistent motions work on her and the right pressure is very important. Start softly and then increase it until she backs you off a bit. I find circular motions around the base of the clit to be most effective in achieving orgasm. Let her guide you, the whole area seems to be ....rather....specific.
whichwayisup Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Very good advice. I'll add, take your time getting there. Her inner thighs are a good place to lick and suck too..It'll make her move around and turn her on more, the closer you get, the antisipation will drive her nuts!
Pyro Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 I know! Makes me wanna bring back the "HOT Friday threads!" (Do a site search on that! ) maybe that is why things have been so hateful around here. Perhaps we all need a reminder of the good ole' days around here.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Very good advice. I'll add, take your time getting there. Her inner thighs are a good place to lick and suck too..It'll make her move around and turn her on more, the closer you get, the antisipation will drive her nuts! My username is dreamingoftigers and I support this message!
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