sweetlee102 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hey everyone….. I hope you are well J I have posted in here before. I have really bad jealousy, anxiety, and self esteem issues. Oh..lets add trust to that. Most people I know do not have a clue about this. The ones closest to me unfortunately get to bear the brunt. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over three years now. It’s been a struggle and in all honestly I’m surprised he is still with me. I am just so jealous and paranoid, face book , texting, etc. He has not cheated on my but he does have some friend that are girls that text him once in a while. I know he doesn’t always tell me everything because I tend to freak out. I am not proud, not at all. I am working on everything and it’s so hard. I am just convinced he will find someone better. With that said here is my latest worry L My boyfriends younger brother is going through a divorce. He and his wife separated and then he found out his wife was seeing someone. He literally had a break down, it’s been horrible and I feel bad for him and the whole family as its wearing them down trying to help him. But they are a great family and will not give up. With that said, this weekend my boyfriend was going to take his brother out to get some a** to help him forget about his wife, so he would hopefully have a distraction and stop calling her, etc. When I heard this I got really upset. Now I understand 100% how selfish I sound. But it freaks me out to think my boyfriend (who is not 100% happy with me right now) is out talking to other girls. I know he’s not going out with the intention to hook up, but what if it happens? I mean a young cute, drunk girl would be early for an unhappy drunk guy. I realize I sound ridiculous. I do. I just can’t help it. Well.. on sat they ended up not going out because his brother changed his mind and didn’t want to . I know it’s going to happen, they are going to go out looking for girls. How in the world am I not supposed to worry!!! Especially if his brother does meet someone and they want to go somewhere after the bar…my boyfriend won’t leave his brother alone I just don’t know if I can handle this. I am such a mess.
race_engine Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 i think you're just being too paranoid. he has already been with you for 3 years you say and hasn't cheated, so why do it now? one thing is for SURE though. being overly jealous, paranoid, suspicious, or any of those things too much WILL drive any guy away from you slowly but surely. if he has lasted this long with you and you're really jealous and paranoid all the time then he probably loves you a lot, but i wouldn't keep pushing him because eventually he may get sick of it and decide to break things off. i don't think he's cheating though. i'm a guy too (22) and i also have a younger brother (18) and he always asks me for advice and asks me to be his wingman and stuff haha it's funny. i once took him to a nightclub, because he wanted to go and basically see a bunch of hott half-naked girls and get their numbers so he can try to get some tail that weekend lol, so i told him to come with me (i told my girlfriend about this too so that she'd know where i'm at, i didn't try to hide it) and we went to this club and he was kinda timid because he isn't that confident at talking to females yet. so i told him he can watch me if he wants and try to learn something lol. that night i talked to a bunch of different girls, danced with a few, but did nothing that would ruin my relationship with my current girlfriend, just basically had a good time with my brother thats all. harmless fun. in the end, he had a great time, ended up makin out and grinding up on this super hott chick, and i just stood back and grinned hahaha. so no, i don't think you should worry about him at all, he probably just wants to spend time with his brother, but he'll stay out of trouble if he truly loves you he won't do anything to betray you.
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