green_eyed_gypsie200 Posted March 30, 2004 Posted March 30, 2004 I'm pledging a coed service fraternity (I'm older than the rest of the people in it at 27, but everyone is still really nice to me.) There's an alumni (our pledge class is actually named after him) who hangs out with us a lot (he's 30.) Well, I have a major crush on him but I'm getting mixed signals from him. I asked him out earlier in the semester and he said "maybe, we'll see." (I actually asked him if he'd go out with me before he moves to Louisville...at the time, he didn't know when he'd be moving.) On Saturday night, one of the brothers in the fraternity walked up to him and said "Becki's crazy about you....why don't you ask her to dance?" That's not the way he was supposed to do things but it's how he chose to do things. The guy's answer was that it "would be too weird because she's in the pledge class named after me." (We do have an unofficial policy that pledges and brothers don't date.) However, here are the positive signals....he's constantly looking at me (when we go out to dinner as a group we make a great deal of eye contact, when we're in meetings together he has blatantly stared at me, when I've got my back turned to him my friends have seen him looking me up and down, when I crossed the room the other day someone saw him follow me with his eyes all the way across and back to my seat), he shows up places when he knows I'll be there (like to a basketball game that he had no plans to attend until after I told him I'd be there but his excuse was that it was across the street from his work....he had to pay $16 to get in, so that doesn't seem like a good enough reason to me not to mention the ticket he bought was for the regular section and he was scanning the student section where I was), the other night when I was getting in his car to go to dinner (he's my ride about 90% of the time when we go places) he opened the door for me for the first time ever, he has made a jealous comment once, he won't let me go right away when we start talking on Instant Messenger and I'm ready to go, I've seen him start to reach to my side of the car when we were riding together and then all of a sudden sit on his hand or do something else with his hand, and he's touched both my arm to get my attention once and my shoulder to get my attention once. So, here's my question....Does it sound like he likes me and he's just not comfortable making a move because I'm a pledge or do you think there might be some other reason for all those signals? Thanks.
Fofinha Posted April 1, 2004 Posted April 1, 2004 He's a guy! This might be what all these signals mean. You won't know if you don't ask him. Just go up to him and tell him what you've noticed. Or mention you'd really enjoy going out with him. If he is still vague and refuses, forget about him and move on. Pledge or no pledge, if this guy was really hot for you, he'd find a way to be with you. Trust me!
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