NoSunshineToday Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hi. New member here but been lurking for awhile and finding the experiences of everyone very helpful. I’ve got a long story that I not quite ready to post yet. Just a quick synopsis – I am the WW but think I may have a WS as well. Recently started IC and hoping to start MC soon as well. I do have a question though that I hope someone may be able to give me some insight on. Me and my H pretty much have a sexless marriage. I recently found some Viagra pills hidden in his car in a non-prescription bottle as well as an unfilled script for some from his urologist (who he saw recently for kidney stones). Other than the obvious, are there other reasons that he might be taking them? A friend insists that he would only have these if he was having an affair. I just have a hard time thinking that he would or could possibly find the time. Then again – I never expected to find myself in that situation. Any thoughts on this would be appreciated.
BB07 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I googled it and other uses for it are very, very rare.
whichwayisup Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 You need to come right out and ask him what is going on. Watch his reaction carefully. Are there any other signs of him cheating on you? You say you're a WW? So are you having an affair on him? Or is your affair over.
Author NoSunshineToday Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Yes, I was having an affair but it's now ended. Haven't owned up to it yet with my husband but that's part of what I'm discussing in IC. The remorse and guilt I feel won't change but I think it adds a different dimension to our whole situation if he was also cheating. There are definite problems with our marriage (duh) and instead of addressing them, I know I went outside to make myself feel better. I'm not good at confrontation in general and tend to run away from problems rather than face up. Although I have good intentions to discuss things with H, I think we need MC to help facilitate as we both have a habit of shutting up and moving on with out fixing the problems.
Jonah Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Me and my H pretty much have a sexless marriage. I recently found some Viagra pills hidden in his car in a non-prescription bottle as well as an unfilled script for some from his urologist (who he saw recently for kidney stones). Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Well golly gee! Feed the man the pills and knock his socks off! Do that early and often enough he will forget his flame. Now that was an easy call! See, you too can have sunshine today!
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