buzz1130 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 So i was in a 2 1/2 year relationship with the most beautiful girl (in my eyes)..its funny because i smile as i write that line.We were MADLY in love,knew everything there was to know about eachother down to her bra size and my fitted cap size lol.she told me i was THE BEST THING to ever happen to her,we discussed our future together,children,marriage,how the wedding was going to be,you know the GOO GOO GA GA stuff..We started out as bestfriends,whenever she needed me i was there for her,anything she needed she got from me,SEX was over the top,TOTALLY in love with this girl.But things went south when i decided to cheat on her and she found out.Ofcourse she broke up with me because she was hurt,felt insecurities,and was unsure of herself,but at the same time immediately jumps into a relationship with another guy.during the first couple of days of the break up i did the usual unattractive things like begging for her back,repeatedly apologizing etc.Then she finally tells me she needs her space right now and that we should just be friends,me being foolish i agree to it and we become friends,hanging out,shopping,occasional french kiss,not long after that she begins to bring up the other guy and how she wants to make it official with him and asks me what i think.I brush it off and tell her to go for it.Just last week i decided enough was enough so I told her we could no longer be friends and that it was best if we didnt talk to eachother after all she did say she needed her space,she immediately argued my decision but finally gave in as she saw the seriousness in my face,apologized and went our separate ways.Its been a long hard 5 DAYS of No Contact and i would be lying if i said i werent tempted to contact her but ive kept my composure.I'm just confused about everything and wondering if there will ever be a way we could start over.I know everyone says once a cheater always a cheater,it was something ive never done to any of my past GFs and something i truly regret after seeing the hurt in her eyes,her crying and knowing i broke a promise i made to never hurt her.at this point i really dont know what to do about the situation especially with our WOULD BE 3 YEAR ANNIVERSARY COMING IN APRIL..its hard man
BrokenFool Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 buzz - you have to give her space man and 5 days NC is no way long enough, ask me im on day 47 NC and havent spoken with her in over 2 months and still I am no further forward YOU say she was perfect etc etc yet you cheated on her so she couldnt have been that perfect for you she got into another relationship AFTER you had cheated on her so she was well within her rights however the fact she is still french kissing you whilst supposedly being with the other person shows her feelings towards you if you stay talking with her you are gonna end up in the friendzone and IF things dont work out with the other guy you are gonna be the back up plan DO YOU WANT THAT FOR YOURSELF you cant control her, if you say to her end your relationship and come back with me she wont and you dont want things that way either go NC she will either crack realise the new guy is just a rebound and want you back and things will get stronger between you two or she will make a go of things with that guy and in time you will heal and be able to realise next time you find someone you love dont cheat on them
Author buzz1130 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 buzz - you have to give her space man and 5 days NC is no way long enough, ask me im on day 47 NC and havent spoken with her in over 2 months and still I am no further forward YOU say she was perfect etc etc yet you cheated on her so she couldnt have been that perfect for you she got into another relationship AFTER you had cheated on her so she was well within her rights however the fact she is still french kissing you whilst supposedly being with the other person shows her feelings towards you if you stay talking with her you are gonna end up in the friendzone and IF things dont work out with the other guy you are gonna be the back up plan DO YOU WANT THAT FOR YOURSELF you cant control her, if you say to her end your relationship and come back with me she wont and you dont want things that way either go NC she will either crack realise the new guy is just a rebound and want you back and things will get stronger between you two or she will make a go of things with that guy and in time you will heal and be able to realise next time you find someone you love dont cheat on them yea the NC is slowly building on me but its like sometimes i wanna pull my hair out..but im definitely glad im NOT in the friendzone..ive been there before and the feeling you get when she tells you shes with someone else and moves on IS NOT GOOD..im pretty confident in her coming back to me and us starting over but theres always that slight chance that it'll rain.i have been keeping myself busy,working out,hitting the bar or lounge with my boys,i even planned a trip for sky diving..so you know its hard man but life isnt easy..just gotta roll with the punches..thanks for pulling me back to the ground BrokenFool i really appreciate it
Mcnulty Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 You decided to cheat on her??? Very calculating, after you say that you were madly in love with a beautiful girl?? Then why cheat on her? She has every right to move on, he may be a rebound, he may not be. I think you are being complacent saying you're pretty confident she'll come back to you...why would she? You should just leave her be and go NC for everyone's sake.
Author buzz1130 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 You decided to cheat on her??? Very calculating, after you say that you were madly in love with a beautiful girl?? Then why cheat on her? She has every right to move on, he may be a rebound, he may not be. I think you are being complacent saying you're pretty confident she'll come back to you...why would she? You should just leave her be and go NC for everyone's sake. I've actually started NC already..and to answer the cheating question,noone really knows why a man does it nor why a female does it.I never said she was wrong for moving on I totally agree she has EVERY right to do so I never at one point justified what I did never placed any guilt on her for her decision.I didn't mean to sound arrogant when I said I'm confident shell be back.its just the history we have with eachother over that span of 2 1/2 years,the things we've been through individually and as a couple,any one that didn't kno us would assume we were together since the day we were born.I'm not saying what I did was a mistake I'm no angel,but I do believe I deserve a second chance
depplover_1980 Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Well I don't think you do deserve a second chance, what makes you think you do? You're not even being honest with us as to why you cheated? Like 'she had the best ass I've ever seen and none of you would have turned it down either'! It will never be the same between you again.
Author buzz1130 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 Well I don't think you do deserve a second chance, what makes you think you do? You're not even being honest with us as to why you cheated? Like 'she had the best ass I've ever seen and none of you would have turned it down either'! It will never be the same between you again. actually the reason i cheated was me being curious as to what it would be like to have a girlfriend and "something on the side"..as a man and being around your buddies the temptation was hard to resist.It was a one time thing and i've explained that to her once again it doesnt justify what i did.NOTHING justifies cheating.That was my first time doing something like that and would be my last.i respect what you're saying when it comes to no second chances but the situation is different when she knows,her friends know,her family knows,my friends know and my family knows that im a kind hearted person and despite her being at the saddest times of her life the happiest times together out weigh that situation
Author buzz1130 Posted March 8, 2011 Author Posted March 8, 2011 THANK YOU to everyone who has given me their input its helping me stay level headed.I appreciate everyone's reply and honesty
Mcnulty Posted March 8, 2011 Posted March 8, 2011 Yes, you HAD a connection as individuals and as a couple, but the dynamic has changed now, can't you see that. The new variable is, she is IN a relationship and it's not with you...let her go and don't assume she'll be back.
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