NG85 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I've heard differing opinions on this - When you break up with someone, should you keep the photos of you and them on FB or delete/untag yourself from them? Or is it alright to keep them up? I ask because I'm sort of sentimental, and I've never deleted or untagged myself from a FB photo before. I guess this comes from my youth, where pretty much every photo of myself from the ages of 10 to 18 disappeared in a move, and there's no photo evidence I existed at this time. So I like the idea of having a bunch of photos of myself online. I followed my ex's lead after the break up, and untagged myself from any photo she untagged herself from. Still, she kept herself tagged in a few photos of us, so I kept myself tagged, as well. The break up was a few months ago and I'm very lazy with my FB upkeep, so I'm wondering if it'd be a big deal to keep them up or to delete them this far after the break up.
MissMoni Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I speak from a dumpee's perspective. When my ex and I broke up, he took a couple of weeks to delete pictures of us from his profile picture album, and so did I. I think those pictures can and should go because it's kind of hurtful to upload a new picture and keep seeing their face staring back at you whenever you visit that page. I never detagged pictures of us together, but when I deleted him from facebook, he detagged every single picture of us together which I found both immature and unnecessary, as well as hurtful. We didn't have a bad breakup (as in no one cheated or anything) and it made me feel like he was cutting me out of his life completely, and embarrassed of our time together. I didn't delete him because they're memories - what's the point in detagging pictures, you can't make the memories go away..
Author NG85 Posted March 7, 2011 Author Posted March 7, 2011 Exactly, I had the feeling that the memories will still be there, even if the pictures aren't. I checked out some friends' profiles who broke up with long time girlfriends, and what they usually do is untag themselves from photos with their exes, but leave them in their FB photo albums. So there are still tons of photos of them together floating in their FB, but just not of them tagged. The only photos my ex and I are tagged in are 2 group photos from a party, and 3 or 4 photos of us laying on my bed and mugging for the camera. We weren't kissing or hugging in any of them, but we were basically lying on top of one another and being all touchy-feely. Strange that she leaves those up, when photos of us just hanging out casually or even in the same room were deleted. However, her photo albums are filled with pictures of us together. Our break-up wasn't messy or horrible, and we're on good terms, hence why she still has them. I figure that if the break up was even worse she'd have deleted absolutely every photo on there.
Beeotch Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Facebook...the devil Overall from my last relationship that ended 2 years ago that lead me to this forum, I have realized that I will NEVER broadcast any relationship on FB as it leads to a big mess. Until we're engaged or married, maybe then I'll put up a relationship status and pics but if we're just bf/gf, no thanks. Granted, my ex and I didn't have our relationship on FB and all these pictures and things, so there wasn't anything for me to untag but I've seen so many others with that dilemma...including my bestfriend. Anyway...I say: do whatever feels right to you. I see people with pics of exes they've broken up with years ago still on their FB and it doesn't seem to bother them or their current partner, likewise, I've seen people who after it's over they immediately delete everything. Whatever works for you and your peace of mind. As for me, I don't want to ever have to think of such things again, so I don't plan on putting my relationship on FB unless we're married or some such.
valdeetz1 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 I still have pics of us up- even our engagement pics. I set the albums to only me to view. So no one can see them. I don't look at them- I'm just not ready to let that go I guess. 7 years is a long time of your life. And....honestly most of our pics arent all kissy faces and what not. My ex still has a lot of couple pics of us up on his facebook- and one of him and the girl he left me for. She mentioned on facebook on his wall that he needed to 'update his pictures...' so it bothers her, but he still hasnt deleted them. I did untag myself from the majority of his pics the day we broke up, because I was hurt and angry. But I evidently missed some. I actually delete a lot of pics in his account of us, and still missed a crap load- because he had a lot in his profile pics of us. I wish I hadnt had done that now. At this point...I'm pretty much waiting to see when the remaining tagged pics of me disappear from FB. The new girl has issues with me- as she should. It bugs her that he wont delete those pics. And all the drama over it and their new pic started because a fb friend commented how cute we looked together in a pic he still had up. The next day she posted a pic of them together on both their profiles... ( I have FB stalker friends that give me updates like this from time to time. ) Personally though I find it freaking hilarious- I wouldnt do it. If I got a new guy, I would delete pics of me and my ex- or at the least put them in an album names memories or something. It's disrespectful. And honestly I don't know why my ex hasnt axed our pics- he isnt much sentimental- and oh so happy with his new girl. but eh- who knows.
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