Author guitarguy09 Posted March 9, 2011 Author Posted March 9, 2011 she also claims that this guy knows what she wants before she even says it and understands her more since hes been through alot of experiences. First thing that crossed my mind was, thats what she thought of me when we were going out; i was perfect for her etc.. and its only been 2 months and she seems so serious with this guy already. do you think itll burn out eventually?
betterdeal Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 Why do you care? She's gone, she's doing what she wants and trying to find a way to be happy in this life. If you don't like contact with her, don't contact her. Saying "leave me alone, I have nothing to say to you" if she contacts you is sufficient to get the message across. Now move along, learn from your mistakes and enjoy life. If wondering what she's doing and getting bitter about it makes you happy then do that. If it doesn't, do something else. There is no such thing as "the one", as in "made for each other". If there was such as thing as "the one" then it's statistically improbable that you'd just happen to be in the same town at the same time, given there are 6 billion people and only one one. Rather, we develop as people with the people we share our lives with. If you and someone share your lives sufficiently long enough and close enough, you develop and grow with each other, and that's what makes you a couple, shaped by each other, with each other, growing together, whilst not losing the essence that is your inner self. Wasting your time trying to think your way back into a broken relationship will never ever work. Move on. Let go. Wish her well. Now thank your lucky stars you're alive and living in the free world and can do what the hell you like, treat yourself well, be your own best friend, connect with other people and enjoy.
Author guitarguy09 Posted March 9, 2011 Author Posted March 9, 2011 what a bitch. at least she admits it though. she's so happy and confident right now. Sounds like she was almost getting off on re-destroying your world, while trying to sound like she was coming clean. It's just a matter of time where either one of them begins to questions the other ones integrity. oh and i forgot to say, she cried
dreamingoftigers Posted March 9, 2011 Posted March 9, 2011 she also claims that this guy knows what she wants before she even says it and understands her more since hes been through alot of experiences. First thing that crossed my mind was, thats what she thought of me when we were going out; i was perfect for her etc.. and its only been 2 months and she seems so serious with this guy already. do you think itll burn out eventually? Oh God yes. This is a classic relationship-start line. I even read it in "After the Affair." most people don't realize that this is a function of those early-infatuation hormones. Ironically enough those "mind-reading" hormones start to go away when people settle into their relationships a little more. Then comes that weird resentment "he used to instinctually know hue to treat me, now we just fight or it's boring." Never mind that those early hormones cause you to overlook all of the BS.
Author guitarguy09 Posted March 10, 2011 Author Posted March 10, 2011 looking at it, i didn't say much of what i really felt such as the wrong she was doing being with this guy.when we said goodbye i simply wished her luck but now i kinda regret not getting mad at her decision to start a new RL with this guy
Author guitarguy09 Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 looking at it, i didn't say much of what i really felt such as the wrong she was doing being with this guy.when we said goodbye i simply wished her luck but now i kinda regret not getting mad at her decision to start a new RL with this guy
Mcnulty Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 You didn't listen to the good advice we gave you and you are hurting still, ruminating over if's and buts. As she said patronizingly to you, "she is in good hands". Time to let go I'm afraid.
timchambo Posted March 11, 2011 Posted March 11, 2011 looking at it, i didn't say much of what i really felt such as the wrong she was doing being with this guy.when we said goodbye i simply wished her luck but now i kinda regret not getting mad at her decision to start a new RL with this guy its better off that way. It would have been short term satisfaction anyways. In the end you are going to walk away looking much better. I did what you wanted to do. Told her how wrong she was for leaving for another man after 7 years and that I didn't want to talk to her again. It only seems to have pushed her into his arms even faster. I don't think it changed my outcome any, but I ended up looking bitter... but rightfully so IMO.
Author guitarguy09 Posted March 11, 2011 Author Posted March 11, 2011 You didn't listen to the good advice we gave you and you are hurting still, ruminating over if's and buts. As she said patronizingly to you, "she is in good hands". Time to let go I'm afraid. yeah next time ill listen
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