mishaps Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hi I'm wondering if anyone has some good advice for me. My gf and me have been together 3.5 years. Background is she is English and 25 and I'm 24 and Indian. Secondly we are gay, she is out to her parents I'm not. We had a break for 2 months last summer because she went out with someone else and we were going through a really bad patch. We got back together in September and since then we have been great. I love her she loves me etc. Recently her parents moved house and she has had to move in with me, something I really didn't want right now and realistically nor did she. Reason she has never lived out or anything, only with me before our break and it did lead to tension between us. Recently I have been doing a lot of thinking. Like firstly can I come out, secondly I have always wanted a family that is biologically mine etc. We come from different cultures like with me family is a massive thing and family values. We do tend to have different values and responsibilities, firstly I'm a saver she is a spender. Well until I helped her with her finances and got them on track. Things like education and house stuff we differ on, like we argue over cleaning, its my own house so I like things done particularly and she just tells me I have ocd. Like jobs as well, we have completely different jobs and education, I went to uni and she dropped out because she thought it was pointless. We had a chat last week and I was like I don't know what to do, I love her and she loves me and she keeps saying to me I love you so much it hurts when Im not with you and all she wants to do is make me happy have a family and travel. It's making me feel really upset because I do love her but I don't know about everything else. I don't know if I can tell my parents (indian family) and I don't know if we will conflict in the future on responsibilities values and cultures. I do want family etc and everytime I see my parents I want what they have and the support they give us I want to give. She doesn't have that support with her parents so I don't know how she could do that for kids and when I see her like that sometimes she can be a little selfish. Does any one have any help right now because I am so confused and don't know what to do.sorry its long
Heartbroken30 Posted March 7, 2011 Posted March 7, 2011 Hi Mishaps...do you have an email address? I can somewhat relate to your story and would rather discuss in private. Email me at [email protected]
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